Oh, I know, right? I mean, I get why John is this fucked-up about Jessica -- because he's fucked-up about everything, and she's this symbol of light and hope to him, idealized into his lost chance at a perfect life. But Jessica being that obsessed with him right back? Wow, man, wtf. They were such a flash in the pan that when they were together she was still lying to her mother about seeing someone. And yet he's who she calls a decade later and expects to just appear.
I don't see anyone for John but Harold, but Harold/Grace appeals to me too.
Yeah, the fixation has well and truly shifted, and Harold is John's whole world now. But it seems less unhealthy somehow, probably because Harold's as much a stalker as John is. *g* And also partly because it can be sublimated into devoted service to Harold's cause as well as to Harold himself.
... Okay, and now I'm cracking up at the image of John sending a silent "I love you" to Harold every time he kneecaps someone.
Harold/Grace appeals to me too. Though the frozen-in-time sense of their relationship is also unrealistic and disturbing.
Yeah, I loved the backstory we got for them, and seeing how happy their relationship made both of them, but when you get right down to it, that relationship is also... not actually good. Not just the frozen-in-time aspect, which is already creepy (and also horrible, if Finch does contact her: "hi, sweetie, I let you grieve for years and now that you're healed and moving on, I figured I'd come back and rip all those scabs right off again. Surprise! What's for dinner?").
But when you can't tell the person you love most in the world anything about yourself, you should proooobably not marry them. Or be with them. 'Cause they are not actually with you.
The difference between his relationships with Grace and John are staggering on that level: Grace never heard anything but lies that formed a full false persona; John never heard anything but truth, even if it left lots of blank spaces. He'd never tell Grace "I'll never lie to you".
... well, okay, maybe he would now, if his idea is to bring her into their little world. If that's where this is going, that will be sort of interesting. I don't think she'd bail on him, but there's a sweetness to her that I'm not sure could survive their world.
(Note that "unrealistic" and "disturbing" are characteristics I often enjoy in the show.)
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I don't see anyone for John but Harold, but Harold/Grace appeals to me too.
Yeah, the fixation has well and truly shifted, and Harold is John's whole world now. But it seems less unhealthy somehow, probably because Harold's as much a stalker as John is. *g* And also partly because it can be sublimated into devoted service to Harold's cause as well as to Harold himself.
... Okay, and now I'm cracking up at the image of John sending a silent "I love you" to Harold every time he kneecaps someone.
Harold/Grace appeals to me too. Though the frozen-in-time sense of their relationship is also unrealistic and disturbing.
Yeah, I loved the backstory we got for them, and seeing how happy their relationship made both of them, but when you get right down to it, that relationship is also... not actually good. Not just the frozen-in-time aspect, which is already creepy (and also horrible, if Finch does contact her: "hi, sweetie, I let you grieve for years and now that you're healed and moving on, I figured I'd come back and rip all those scabs right off again. Surprise! What's for dinner?").
But when you can't tell the person you love most in the world anything about yourself, you should proooobably not marry them. Or be with them. 'Cause they are not actually with you.
The difference between his relationships with Grace and John are staggering on that level: Grace never heard anything but lies that formed a full false persona; John never heard anything but truth, even if it left lots of blank spaces. He'd never tell Grace "I'll never lie to you".
... well, okay, maybe he would now, if his idea is to bring her into their little world. If that's where this is going, that will be sort of interesting. I don't think she'd bail on him, but there's a sweetness to her that I'm not sure could survive their world.
(Note that "unrealistic" and "disturbing" are characteristics I often enjoy in the show.)
Hee! It's so true.