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full_metal_ox ([personal profile] full_metal_ox) wrote in [community profile] fancake2025-12-05 03:42 pm

Chen Qing Ling; The Magnetic Fields (band); Let’s Pretend We’re Bunny Rabbits (fanvid) by soupytwist

Fandom: Chen Qing Ling;
Pairings/Characters: M/M; Lan Wangji/Wei Wuxian; the Cloud Recesses bunnies
Rating: General Audiences
Length: 2:26
Content Notes: No Archive Warnings Apply, anvilicious rabbit symbolism, canon-typical blood, canon-typical phallic sword symbolism, corporal punishment, fluff (figurative and literal), innuendo, societal homophobia (in-story and real-world), sparring with subtext, Xiao Zhan’s A+ rabbit handling, (not you, Wang Yibo, you’re fine.)
Creator Tags: vid, Bunnies, Pining, i'm sorry lan wangji, no really a lot of pining
Creator Links: (AO3) [archiveofourown.org profile] soupytwist, (Dreamwidth) [personal profile] soupytwist, (Tumblr) [tumblr.com profile] soupytwist (locked); (YouTube) [youtube.com profile] twistedsoup

Theme: Amnesty, Angst With A Happy Ending, Animals, Humor, Non-Fic Recs: Fanvid, Canon LGBTQ+ Characters, Pining

Summary: If you look inside the heart of the mighty Hanguang-jun, you might find... bunnies.

Author’s Notes:Continue. )

Reccer's Notes: A rec in celebration of the 4 December 2025 Full Supermoon. Stephin Merritt’s wryly anguished anthem of gay pining gains not only an unironic tenderness but the hope of a happy resolution when juxtaposed with CQL’s literal rabbits (and their pervasive symbolism as tokens, symbols, and allegory of Wangxian’s relationship, as well as allusions to a Rabbit God who’d bless a gay union.)

Nor does soupytwist’s pitch-perfect syncing of visuals to lyrics hurt one bit.

Fanwork Links:
AO3 (locked): [FANVID] Let's Pretend We're Bunny Rabbits; Part 2 of Gusu Love Songs.
Vimeo: Let’s Pretend We’re Bunny Rabbits
YouTube:Let’s Pretend We’re Bunny Rabbits
MetaFilter ([syndicated profile] metafilter_feed) wrote2025-12-05 08:41 pm

Melting Spoons and Autistic Burnout

Posted by MonkeyToes

"If you saw someone going through Autistic Burnout would you be able to recognise it? Would you even know what it means? Would you know what it meant for yourself if you are an Autistic person? The sad truth is that so many Autistic people, children and adults, go through this with zero comprehension of what is happening to them and with zero support from their friends and families." From Ryan Boren and Stimpunks.org: Autistic Burnout: The Cost of Masking and Passing.

"Burnout, long-term shutdown, or whatever you want to call it, happens generally when you have been doing much more than you should be doing. Most people have a level to which they are capable of functioning without burnout, a level to which they are capable of functioning for emergency purposes only, and a level to which they simply cannot function. In autistic people in current societies, that first level is much narrower. Simply functioning at a minimally acceptable level to non-autistic people or for survival, can push us into the zone that in a non-autistic person would be reserved for emergencies. Prolonged functioning in emergency mode can result in loss of skills and burnout." A long, link-filled reflection. Like long enough to require a table of contents. (I believe that Ryan Boren is the original author.)
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smallhobbit ([personal profile] smallhobbit) wrote in [community profile] fan_flashworks2025-12-05 08:20 pm

Spooks (MI5): Fanfic: You're the Boss

Title: You're the Boss
Fandom: Spooks (MI5)
Rating: G
Length: 400 words
Summary: Harry Pearce tells Adam and Lucas their Christmas plans will have to change

Ask a Manager ([syndicated profile] askamanager_feed) wrote2025-12-05 07:02 pm

updates: the flirting supervisor, boss keeps calling me his assistant, and more

Posted by Ask a Manager

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Here are four updates from past letter-writers.

1. Supervisor is flirting with my wife

Well, the update is that I did have a conversation with my wife after several conversations before. The last one, I told her that the supervisor’s behavior towards her and her reactions to that behavior would be the end of us. She had a last conversation with him where he told her that he didn’t mean any disrespect, which I thought was bull but whatever.

Eventually I saw less and less interaction on camera but I still drove myself crazy wondering what was happening in places I couldn’t see. .. but I must have prayed to the right gods because he ended up putting in his two weeks and leaving back to his country. My wife and I haven’t had any arguments since this departure.

2. My boss keeps calling me his assistant (I’m not)

I’m glad I wrote in, as some reorganization meant we’re working with some new departments where introductions were needed – and I was again copied in on an email as referred to as “my assistant.” Your wording, and commenter suggestions, were so helpful in making me feel comfortable and confident addressing it – I replied asking him to use “deputy” or “colleague” in future, and referenced that especially in our organization it can cause some awkward or troublesome confusion as well. He apologized and said he would going forward – while he can be forgetful, I’m much more confident in correcting him if it happens again!

I also want to thank you for your note about the importance of assistants. I started in my current organization in a few different assistant roles so I know firsthand how vital they are, and now rely so much on several people in assistant roles! My concern was partially the gender dynamics at play; and partially that a large function of my job requires people to know they HAVE to come to me for certain things, which would not be a part of assistant roles at this org, so I was worried about confusion the particular intro would cause. But this place and every place I’ve worked would fall apart without assistants busting their butts off every day.

3. My boss keeps using WhatsApp, Signal, and texts to contact me (#4 at the link)

My update is a mixed bag. I didn’t follow your advice to talk to my boss immediately, as my field and employer were swept up in all the nasty fallout from this administration and the prospect of staying employed for all of us was precarious. It also wasn’t so easy to say I wasn’t on the apps because I wound up having to monitor them for updates that would affect our work (lots of group chats that my boss was also in with external partners to share intel on prospects of our govt funding agency collapsing, all the legal battles, etc.). But I did take your advice to just respond less quickly.

A few weeks after I wrote, we were all laid off. For context my “organization” is nestled within a larger institution so technically the parent org HR and legal call the shots, but our team has its very own weird culture. It made me laugh that a lot of commenters were asking about organizational policies, etc. when my workplace was such a Wild West.

Some of us got rehired, but my rehiring in particular had a technical glitch and was in limbo for some time. My boss didn’t have power in this scenario but also handled things pretty poorly — didn’t think to do any contingency planning for my absence, didn’t say anything when my layoff date came and went … only the next day she texted me to see if my work email still worked. When I responded that I wouldn’t be checking email as I was no longer employed, all she said was, “At least your email still works!” I wound up eventually getting reinstated shortly before my parental leave, and did mention to my boss that email was my preferred channel. She mostly respected that (she did say she’d text me important project news while I was out, though fortunately so far hasn’t). Of course HR screwed up paperwork for my leave and I wound up having to spend the first four weeks in back and forth with them to sort things.

I’m pretty bitter about how leadership, including my boss, has handled everything, and my role has changed so much and many of the colleagues that attracted me in the first place to this job are gone. So I’m hoping not to return to this job, but with the field more than decimated it may be that beggars can’t be choosers.

In the meantime, I’m enjoying my wonderful baby and far prefer the sleepless nights to having my blood pressure raised by a crappy work situation where the boss texting me at 8 pm on a Friday is just the icing on the cake.

4. Our boss is MIA (#2 at the link)

Shortly after I wrote you, things turned around and our executive director started to schedule regular check-ins again and acknowledged that she had been struggling with her mental and physical health. I do think this had to do with the board finding out how bad things had gotten. There’s definitely still some resentment and broken trust with the team, but we have gotten back on track with most aspects of our work.

I ended up moving to a new state for unrelated reasons and am still working for the organization remotely. I would really like to leave and find a new job, but I have not had any luck so far. I am grateful for their flexibility in keeping me on but I also feel very stuck and stagnant in this role, especially after some of those frustrating experiences.

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Ysabet ([personal profile] umadoshi) wrote2025-12-05 01:25 pm
Entry tags:

Christmas music | Not-Christmas cake

An important task, given that I'm switching away from Spotify to Qobuz at this time of year: sifting through someone else's curated Trans-Siberian Orchestra playlist and pulling only about a third of the tracks from that to my own new holiday playlist. (There is a way to import Spotify playlists, but I haven't actually investigated it yet.)

My playlist is awfully random, really. I'm picky about Christmas music, but not in a way that follows much rhyme or reason. I like some boys' choir stuff. I mostly prefer older Christmas songs to more modern ones. But in practice, a lot of what I listen to is single-artist holiday albums, often by artists I don't really listen to otherwise. (The examples in my playlist so far are Annie Lennox and Sting and Idina Menzel, and maybe Mary Fahl counts, since I haven't heard any of her other solo work, just the old October Project albums where she was the lead vocalist.) If you have recs along those lines, feel free to throw them my way!

(Am I still entertained by the fact that Tori Amos put out a seasonal holiday album, uh...[*checks notes*] seventeen years ago? [WHY did I just date-check that?] Yep. Am I listening to it right now because it turned out that I enjoy most of it? Also yep. Still funny.)

(Would-be-funny-if-not-completely-horrifying: Every once in a while I remember Tom McRae saying that in the earliest days, his label thought his song "You Cut Her Hair" could be released as a Christmas track. "You Cut Her Hair" deals with the Holocaust. Very seasonal. Yes. o_o)

I guess it must've been back on the weekend that we made Smitten Kitchen's Mom’s Apple Cake, which was the first apple cake I was looking at a few weeks ago, but at the time we didn't have a tube pan on hand. (You can use a bundt, which we did have, but...I didn't opt for that.) It's very good. It's also LARGE. (Some went into the freezer.)

We cracked out the Burlap & Barrel Royal Cinnamon for it, and the cake is very cinnamony, but that presumably is at least equally due to the part where the cake calls for a tablespoon.
Ask a Manager ([syndicated profile] askamanager_feed) wrote2025-12-05 04:00 pm

open thread – December 5, 2025

Posted by Ask a Manager

It’s the Friday open thread!

The comment section on this post is open for discussion with other readers on any work-related questions that you want to talk about (that includes school). If you want an answer from me, emailing me is still your best bet*, but this is a chance to take your questions to other readers.

* If you submitted a question to me recently, please do not repost it here, as it may be in my queue to answer.

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MetaFilter ([syndicated profile] metafilter_feed) wrote2025-12-05 03:29 pm

Dreaming of a home

Posted by Bella Donna

I do not like new construction, or renovations of nearly any kind; those little rectangular backsplash tiles that have become synonymous with affordable real estate fill me with a kind of nameless dread. I think people who see "stainless steel appliances and granite countertops" as a positive should be sent to re-education camps run by septugenarian homosexual vintage furniture dealers. I would gladly vote outside my party for any gubernatorial candidate who ran on a platform of making it a crime to install grey hardwood flooring in the state of California, and I would rather breathe benzene directly from a bag than own an electric stove. Like Glenn Danzig, I have many strong opinions. That time writer Julieanne Smolinski took her boyfriend and baby to see an open house that just happened to belong to musician Glenn Danzig, founder of The Misfits among other things.
MetaFilter ([syndicated profile] metafilter_feed) wrote2025-12-05 02:31 pm

Buy our shit

Posted by DirtyOldTown

Digital artist Mike Winkelmann, better known as Beeple, is causing a stir with a new installation featuring robotic canines fitted with hyper-realistic heads that amble around pooping out certificates of authenticity. (Short Video) Some of the heads feature tech moguls, such as Elon Musk, Jeff Bezos, or Mark Zuckerberg. Others feature artists such as Picasso, Warhol, or Winkelmann himself. Crucially, a QR code on the certificates also allows buyers to purchase accompanying NFTs. The free certificates state that this "artwork has been tested and verified as 100% pure GMO-free, organic dogshit originating from a medium adult dog anus."
MetaFilter ([syndicated profile] metafilter_feed) wrote2025-12-05 02:31 pm

Who are those guys? Poets or something?

Posted by eschatfische

Somewhere between Ken Nordine and Jack Handey lie the mysterious drifters of The Reveries Trilogy. As these drifters (Matt Barats and Anthony Overbeck) travel the world, survive in their underground bunker or become trapped in an endless desert landscape, we become privy to their surreal and often hilarious coffee-fueled inner dialogues. Now on Blu-ray, you can also watch Reveries and Reveries: Going Deeper free on Vimeo.
MetaFilter ([syndicated profile] metafilter_feed) wrote2025-12-05 02:05 pm

NASA has a free online repository of Science E-books

Posted by Faintdreams

Books can be found here, text list inside full post Science e-Books. From Earth and the other planets in our solar system, to supermassive black holes and the distant galaxies that contain them, explore NASA science and imagery through our library of e-books.

Every text can (currently) be downloaded for free in either PDF or EPub format. No signups or email address required, just lick the link and download the required text(s). Astrophysics:
  • Black Holes: Into the Vortex
  • Reshaping Our Cosmic View
  • Our High-Energy Universe
  • Dark Universe
  • The Lives of Stars
  • Galaxies through Space and Time
Earth:
  • Earth
  • Earth at Night
  • Landsat: Benefiting Society for Fifty years
  • Landsat: Continuing to Improve Everyday Life
  • Earth as Art
History:
  • Not Yet Imagined: A Study of Hubble Space Telescope Operations
  • Beyond Earth: A Chronicle of Deep Space Exploration, 1958–2016
  • Making the Invisible Visible: A History of the Spitzer Infrared Telescope Facility (1971–2003)
  • When Biospheres Collide: A History of NASA's Planetary Protection Programs
Planets:
  • NASA'S Discovery Program: The First Twenty Years of Competitive Planetary Exploration
  • Strange New Worlds
  • The Saturn System: Through the Eyes of Cassini
  • Our Amazing Solar System
International Space Station Researcher's Guides:
  • Acceleration Environment
  • Cellular Biology
  • Combustion Science
  • Earth Observations
  • Fluid Physics
  • Fruit Fly Research
  • GeneLab
  • Human Research
  • Microbial Research
  • Microgravity Materials Research
  • Plant Science
  • Rodent Research
  • Space Environmental Effects
  • Technology Demonstration
Image Books:
  • Hubble's Beautiful Universe
Enjoy.
MetaFilter ([syndicated profile] metafilter_feed) wrote2025-12-05 01:12 pm

Self-Checkout

Posted by tiny frying pan

More Consumers Stealing From Self-Checkout, With Many Blaming Higher Prices (LendingTree survey) , 27% of self-checkout users have purposefully taken an item without scanning, according to a LendingTree survey of 2,050 U.S. consumers. Alarmingly, unaffordable essentials (47%) and price increases tied to tariffs (46%) are the main motivations for doing so.

A few more interesting bits Theft is one thing, but accusations are another. Among self-checkout users, 14% say they've been accused of taking an item without scanning, even though they didn't take anything. Meanwhile, 9% say they were accused and had taken something, and 7% say they weren't accused despite having taken items. The conclusions of the corporate sponsored article of course amount to "stealing is wrong" which is, imo, a loaded phrase. Previously
MetaFilter ([syndicated profile] metafilter_feed) wrote2025-12-05 08:35 am

In praise of stealing from thieves

Posted by growabrain

"Every pirate streaming site has the same problem: 47 pop-ups, crypto miners turning your laptop into a space heater, fake buttons designed by Satan's UX team, and a player that makes you question your life choices. Everyone assumes this exploitation is necessary for "free" content. It's not. I spent 5 months proving it by reverse engineering the actual protection systems these sites use. My sleep schedule may never recover, but at least I have data."

Flyx: An Empirical Study in Stealing from Thieves While Maintaining Moral Superiority.. I discovered it on r/PiracyBsckup. I have not tested it yet. But I'm all for piracy, and I watch all my media on similar "free" streamers (cataz, m4uhd, ok.ru, etc., which, with ad-blocking are completely serviceable). Some people are protective of the streaming oligarchs's right to exploit the public. Not me. YMMV.
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ysabetwordsmith ([personal profile] ysabetwordsmith) wrote in [community profile] followfriday2025-12-05 02:50 am
Entry tags:

Follow Friday 12-5-25

Got any Follow Friday-related posts to share this week? Comment here with the link(s).

Here's the plan: every Friday, let's recommend some people and/or communities to follow on Dreamwidth. That's it. No complicated rules, no "pass this on to 7.328 friends or your cat will die".

MetaFilter ([syndicated profile] metafilter_feed) wrote2025-12-05 08:01 am

Some statements remain potent, no matter how many times we use them

Posted by chavenet

What's more, the further up the ladder I climbed, the more money I was paid, and the more I got used to the lifestyle that came with it. The door to my dreams of being a Capital-W Writer was closing, and I was becoming less and less inclined to attempt a squeeze-through. I realised this when I was at a house party speaking to a Dutch woman who had studied climate science but now worked for an oil company. She'd gone in with the idea that she'd change the industry, for the better, from within. Instead, she found herself jaded and unable to do anything about much at all. Plus, she liked the company car and the salad bar and free gym subscription too much to give it all up. She was in 'the gold-plated prison', as she told me it was phrased in Dutch. Fuck. I was in the gold-plated prison, too. from In Defence of Cliché [Sydney Review of Books]
MetaFilter ([syndicated profile] metafilter_feed) wrote2025-12-05 07:56 am

Marguerite Porete was a beguine.

Posted by kliuless

Janet Rich Edwards on Marguerite Porete and the Power of Unconventional Faith - "In the Middle Ages, a woman had two choices: marriage or the convent. Faced with these meager options, women began to form their own communities. At first, beguinages were scattered households of women. Later, 'court beguinages' held hundreds, even thousands, of residents. By the close of the 13th century, there were almost a million beguines in Europe."[1] (previously)

Beguines committed to live in simplicity, chastity, and charity, as long as they remained in the beguinage. They were free to leave at any time. Their pledges to each other have the ring of religious vows, with one big difference: beguines didn't vow obedience. They refused the rule of the Church. I loved them immediately. Here was the religious resistance. As you can imagine, the Church was very nervous about these ungoverned women. They read, they wrote, they taught, and some of them even preached on street corners, which was forbidden to women. It's suggested that a few dabbled in illegal translations of scripture from the Latin to local vernacular, a practice frowned upon (to put it mildly) by the Pope. These were medieval women forging their own way, taking risks, creating nonconformist communities. It made sense that Marguerite, with her impolitic and forthright Mirror, was a beguine. They were known for their mystical leanings and for dancing in church. Beguines existed on the edge of papal approval until, in 1311, the year after Marguerite died, Pope Clement V declared them heretics. And yet, like The Mirror of Simple Souls[2], they survived. The last beguine, Marcella Pattyn, died in 2013. She played the banjo for the sick. In their joy and courage, in their insistence on faith even as they defied the Church, the beguines were inspiring. They showed me what I was missing. Community. I wasn't yet ready to join one, but maybe I could write one.
  • The Beguines - "Adult women during the Middle Ages were expected to live under the guardianship of a man, either within the household as a wife and mother, or dedicated to the Church and living in a convent as a nun. The Beguines questioned this concept and lived outside of these set boundaries. Women who entered Beguinages (Beguine houses and/or convents) were not bound by permanent vows, in contrast to women who entered convents. They could enter Beguinages having already been married and they could leave the Beguinages to marry. Some women even entered the Beguinages with children. Their piety was centered around the eucharist and the humanity of Jesus. Their origin is debated, but around 1150 C.E. groups of women, eventually called Beguines, began living together for the purposes of economic self-sufficiency and a religious vocation."
  • The Birds and the Beguines - "The beguines refused to live as though marriage or monastery were the only places of purpose and belonging for women."
  • As much as they dared, by which I also mean served, they built and managed small cities themselves, and thus stand to be counted among history's civic, even political, housekeepers as well, despite lacking much of an archive, despite being considered external to the structures of the polis.
  • The Beguines of Medieval Europe: Mystics and Visionaries - "The Beguine movement grew from the work of Mary of Oignies (1177-1213) a native of Belgium. She was drawn to the ideals of service to others and voluntary poverty, the attraction so strong that she renounced her marriage, gave away all her possessions, and worked for a time in a leper colony. Others were drawn to her; thus, the birth of the beguine 'community.'"
    Unlike religious orders of the day who answered to church hierarchy, beguines were not subject to clerical oversight nor did they follow an established ecclesiastical rule. These women did not live in convents, but while some chose to remain in their own homes or in the homes of relatives, most were housed in beguinages or 'God Houses,' (Gotzhaus) self-sufficient clusters of individual houses surrounding a central courtyard (Harrington, 2018).
  • Being Beguine - "The Beguines thrived during the dark and middle ages. They were focused on helping the women. Their methods and order and spirituality drew women of all classes. They built housing and many devoted their lives to the enclaves and when they died, left their wealth to the enclave so more unfortunates could be brought in, taught a trade, put to work, given honorable lives. They didn't live in the same house, but clustered their homes. They owned businesses and houses, grew their own food and hemp and made clothing for themselves and to sell. They made medicines for themselves and to sell. They made jobs. That was their mission. That is ours."[3]
  • Right now, this planet has a lot in common with the dark ages. Just like back then, women and children suffer the brunt of the poverty stick. Just like back then, there is a certain hopelessness that sickens the spirit, when people cannot have gainful employment. There is a malaise that happens when the deck is stacked against you – born poor, die poor. We are reliving that again. I call it the castle syndrome. But we, the descendants of the Beguines, intend to occupy the castle and bring reform to it, as we know our ancient mothers did.
  • The return of the Beguine - "The Beguine have returned. Today, they are scattered throughout the world and reliving the sororal and community experience that characterised the movement at its beginnings in the Middle Ages. In Saint-Martin-Du-Lac (France), lay and consecrated people have formed a monastic community dedicated to helping the needy. In the Roman suburb of Tor Bella Monaca (Italy), a group of former nuns is engaged in the recovery of families entangled in drugs and social distress. In the United States, the Companions of Claire, led by a woman who once belonged to the order of the Poor Clares, help farmers do business locally."[4]
  • These people are Christians who, like the historical Beguines, choose the freedom of experiencing faith without the need to take vows. Women who are no longer young, who make concrete the need to interweave a sisterhood and for this reason they live under the same roof, and are united by the living mission of a social commitment. A commitment that is also feminist, such as the new German Beguines in Essen who promote help for the sick, or the French Beguines in Montreuil who are united in a community that is also a retirement home where Christian spirituality is ecumenical and shared.

    These examples flourish, quietly, and reawaken interest in the Beguines who were never an order and never had a rule or foundress, although they took the vows of chastity, obedience and poverty. They were anarchic but never heretical, the Beguines began to appear in 1200 in Flanders and the Netherlands and then spread to Germany, France, Switzerland and Italy where they took on different names according to the different places: humiliate, papelarde, mulieres religiosae, devotae. They neither got married nor became nuns; they were the first case in history of a women's movement freed from male domination, as Silvana Panciera recalls in her Le Beghine [Beguines]. Una storia di donne per la libertà [A Women's Story of Freedom], which Gabrielli has republished after 10 years in a new revised and expanded edition, with a preface by the scholar of speculative mysticism Marco Vannini.
  • Herb-workers and Heretics: The Beguines An Overview of the Beguine Movement - "In conclusion, one sees that in Belgium, the Netherlands, Germany, France, Italy, Spain, and Sicily, the Beguine movement touched the lives of thousands of women from all classes of society. Its history is intimately connected with the rise of medieval industry, health care, and the education of women throughout Europe. By the end of the fifteenth century, after the destruction of the movement, the Beguine life style no longer was viewed as an acceptable alternative. Women could no longer live together freely for mutual support without being suspected of evil doing. After hundreds of years of persecution and suspicion of heresy, any unattached woman, young or old, who appeared to espouse the Beguine life style, was looked upon as a menacing being, almost as if she were a 'witch.' In the smaller towns, the populace often arbitrarily burned Beguines and women appearing to be Beguines, without waiting for the arrival of the Inquisition, such was their fear and antipathy toward them."[5]
APOD ([syndicated profile] apod_feed) wrote2025-12-05 06:49 am