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Posted by Lana DeGaetano

When an unhelpful, negative-minded coworker retires, it's safe to say that you probably won't miss them very much. Their attitude negatively impacted your work, your morale, and most importantly, your peace of mind. Farewell parties are typical workplace protocol, but that doesn't mean you should be expected to cough up hundreds of dollars on a gift for the retiree, especially if they very clearly don't deserve it. Shouldn't the gift be on the company dollar instead?

The concept of a "mandatory" gift at the expense of employees' finances is preposterous, and management should be help accountable whenever they pressure their employees to spend their hard-earned money on someone they don't even like.

In the story below, an employee explains that they flat-out refused to contribute to their colleague's farewell gift on principle. Not only is an expected $100 contribution entitled, but the colleague in question went out of her way to be as unhelpful as possible to the employee. In what world should the employee reward bad behavior?

What would you do in this situation? On the one hand, other colleagues might feel pressured to contribute more money. However… The employee is setting a precedent that they should not be expected to front any bills for gift-giving. Scroll to read the entire story.

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I did not go downtown today. I still got in some shopping, but only because I needed both milk and gas, so stopped at Stewart’s. And I might have stopped at the Price Chopper that’s ‘in the other direction’ to see what they had.

I visited my aunt, hit the post office to mail a couple more cards, hand-washed dishes, went for several walks with Pip and the dogs, cut up chicken for the dogs' meals, and scooped kitty litter. I got leftover pulled pork out of the freezer for Pip’s supper.

I wrote ~600 words on my second fic for [community profile] fandomtrees! First draft is done, so I just need to get it typed in and edited. I read more in Boyfriend Material and watched another ep of The Pitt.

Temps started out at 30.9(F) and dropped to 22.1 before I left the house a couple hours later!! The forecast called for the overnight low to be 21, but we were skeptical of that because it was still 39.9 when we went to bed. Apparently Mother Nature was determined to get close to that forecasted low! All the snow that melted yesterday re-froze overnight, so that was fun. Temps reached 50.4 and we had sun today!

Tomorrow is supposed to be a high of 54 with rain in the morning and snow in the afternoon, which means a huge and sudden temperature drop. That’ll be more fun.

P.S. Thank you to everyone who has commented on my aunt update posts. I appreciate the hugs and suggestions.


Mom Update:

Mom is not doing well. more back here )
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Via Wildlife Conservation Network - they write:

There’s something truly special about sea otters—their little paws, their vital role in our kelp forests, and their capacity for resilience 🦦

This year, we took a big leap and launched the Sea Otter Fund, our first-ever marine wildlife fund. It’s a dream come true for our team, but we can't do it alone. Right now, your kindness goes twice as far. Thanks to a generous $100k match, every dollar you give to otters before December 31 is doubled!

Help us protect these incredible creatures and start this new chapter strong 🌊

podcast friday

Dec. 19th, 2025 07:02 am
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 This week's episode is Wizards & Spaceships' latest, "Postcolonialism in SFFH ft. Suzan Palumbo." Suzan is a rising star in the Canadian speculative fiction scene and also just a very lovely, funny person. In the episode, she discusses the tropes and traditions that are baked into genre that reinforce colonialist mindsets, and the BIPOC authors pushing back against it. It's really good go listen.
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Caught In The Undertow (9931 words) by Andraste
Chapters: 6/6
Fandom: Hazbin Hotel (Cartoon)
Rating: Explicit
Warnings: Creator Chose Not To Use Archive Warnings
Relationships: Alastor/Vox

Summary: It takes Vox a long time to find out what the radio demon wants from him, and that Hell really is what you make of it.

Or: five times Vox wanted something out of Alastor (and mostly didn't get it) and one time Alastor wanted something back (and did).

Advent calendar 19

Dec. 19th, 2025 11:42 am
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At bedtime that night no one spoke of hanging up stockings. Grace was too young to know about hanging stockings on Christmas Eve and no one else expected a present. But they had never been so eager for Christmas Day because the tracks were clear now and the train would come tomorrow.

[...]

She slid out of bed without waking Mary and quickly pulled on her dress in the cold. She opened the box where she kept her own things. She took out the roll of knitted lace, already wrapped carefully in tissue paper. Then she found the prettiest card she had ever been given in Sunday school and she took the little embroidered picture frame and the cardboard hair receiver. With these in her hands she hurried tiptoe downstairs.

Ma looked up in surprise. The table was set and Ma was putting on each plate a little package wrapped in red-and-white striped paper.

"Merry Christmas, Ma!" Laura whispered. "Oh, what are they?"

"Christmas presents," Ma whispered. "Whatever have you got there?"

(no subject)

Dec. 19th, 2025 11:57 am
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My grandmother passed yesterday morning. She's the last remaining of my grandparents. While dementia did claim all of her a year past, I guess it still hit me. I'll probably be a bit less responsive on here for a while.

Friday check in

Dec. 19th, 2025 11:54 am
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Even doing weekly countdowns, Christmas still managed to sneak up on me! I hope things are looking manageable on y'all's end ❤️

If you link your rec posts/fandoms in the comments, I can add the fandom tags :)

Fic: If These Walls

Dec. 19th, 2025 04:34 am
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If These Walls
Rating: Teen
Josh/Oliver
Summary: In which Oliver takes shrooms, the hospital talks to him, and he talks to Josh. Finally. Takes place between 2.03 and 2.04. Canon compliant until then.
ao3: https://archiveofourown.org/works/76019471

Tags: drugs, psilocybin, hallucinations, sentient hospital, elevators, making up, confessions, memories, senses, scents and smells, sounds, animism, Episode: s02e02 The Contestant (Brilliant Minds), POV Oliver Wolf

If These Walls )
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I woke up antsy, which after a couple of hours morphed into a fuzzy, overwhelming anger I could barely repress despite having no specific target for or place to direct it, or really any useful action to take from it.

So that made me think about Dabi/Hawks, and want to write them, and to push hard on the angst, maybe post-canon, probably ending in MCD for at least one of them. Possibly both.

Then I remembered the sheep farming AU. Which I started in early, pre-vaccine covid days. In which Dabi and Hawks run away from it all and just live quietly, happily together, raising their sheep.

Maybe soft could be good, too. Time for a new entry in that AU! Also good for relearning to occasionally write short and to yeet more easily. Writing more short things can only work if I don't just add them to the towering pile of "stuff to edit at some point"!!!


We'll prescribe you a sheep | Dabi/Hawks | 800 words | rated T

Summary: Dabi's sick and misses the sheep. Hawks tries to help.

Read it on Dreamwidth or AO3.

New Worlds: In the Dark Ages

Dec. 19th, 2025 09:07 am
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Thanks to my research for the upcoming Sea Beyond duology, I became aware of something called the "Alexander Romance." Like Arthuriana, this is less a text than a genre, an assortment of tales about how Alexander quested for the Water of Life, slew a dragon, journeyed to the bottom of the ocean, and so forth.

Yes, that Alexander. The Great.

How the heck did we wind up with an entire genre of stories about a Macedonian conquerer who died young that bear so little resemblance to the historical reality?

The answer is that history is much easier to forget than we think nowadays, with our easily mass-produced books. However much you want to lament "those who do not remember the past" etc., we know vastly more about it than any prior age could even aspire to. The legendary tales about Alexander arose quite soon after his death, but by the medieval period, his actual life was largely forgotten; more factual texts were not rediscovered and disseminated until the Renaissance. So for quite a while there, the legends were basically all we had.

Historians tend to not like the phrase "the Dark Ages" anymore, and for good reason. It creates assumptions about what life was like -- nasty, brutish, and short -- that turn out to not really match the reality. But while plenty of people have indeed used that term to contrast with the "light" brought by the Renaissance, one of the men responsible for popularizing it (Cardinal Cesare Baronio, in the sixteenth century) meant it as a statement on the lack of records: to him, the Middle Ages were "dark" because we could not see into them. The massive drop in surviving records had cast that era into shadow.

How do those records get lost? Year Two went into the perils that different writing materials and formats are vulnerable to; those in turn affect the preservation of historical knowledge. Papyrus texts have to be recopied regularly if they're to survive in most environments, so anything that disrupts the supply of materials or the labor available to do that recopying means that dozens, hundreds, even thousands of texts will just . . . go away. Parchment is vastly more durable, but it's also very expensive, and so it tended to get recycled: scrape off the existing text, write on it again, and unless you were lazy enough in your scraping that the old words can still be read -- think of a poorly erased blackboard or whiteboard -- later people will need chemical assistance (very destructive) or high-tech photography to see what you got rid of.

And when your supply of written texts shrinks, it tends to go hand in hand with the literacy rate dropping. So even if you have a record of some historical event, how many people have read it? Just because a thing gets preserved doesn't mean the information it contains will be widely disseminated. That is likely to be the domain of specialists -- if them! Maybe it just sits on a shelf or in a box, completely untouched.

Mind you, written records are not the only way of remembering the past. Oral accounts can be astonishingly precise, even over a period of hundreds or thousands of years! But that tends to be true mostly in societies that are wholly oral, without any tradition of books. On an individual level, we have abundant research showing that parts of the brain which don't see intensive use tend to atrophy; if you don't exercise your memory on a daily basis, you will have a poorer memory than someone who lives without writing, let alone a smartphone. On a societal level, you need training and support for the lorekeepers, so they act as a verification check on each other's accurate recitation. Without that, the stories will drift over time, much like the Alexander Romance has done.

And regardless of whether history is preserved orally or on the page, cultural factors are going to shape what history gets preserved. When the fall of the Western Roman Empire changed the landscape of European letters, the Church was left as the main champion of written records. Were they going to invest their limited time and resources into salvaging the personal letters of ordinary Greeks and Romans? Definitely not. Some plays and other literary works got recopied; others were lost forever. The same was true of histories and works of philosophy. A thousand judgment calls got made, and anything which supported the needs and values of the society of the time was more likely to make the cut, while anything deemed wrong-headed or shocking was more likely to fall by the wayside.

The result is that before the advent of the printing press -- and even for some time after it -- the average person would be astoundingly ignorant of any history outside living memory. They might know some names or events, but can they accurately link those up with dates? Their knowledge would be equivalent to my understanding of the American Civil War amounting to "there was a Great Rebellion in the days of Good President Abe, who was most treacherously murdered by . . . I dunno, somebody."

In fact, there might be several different "somebodies" depending on who's telling the tale. John Wilkes Booth might live on as a byword for an assassin -- imagine if "booth" became the general term for a murderer -- but it's equally possible that some people would tell a tale where Lincoln was murdered by an actor, others where a soldier was responsible, and did that happen at a theatre or at his house? (Booth originally planned to kidnap Lincoln from the latter; that detail might get interpolated into the memory of the assassination.) Or it gets mixed up somehow with Gettysburg, and Lincoln is shot right after giving his famous speech, because all the famous bits have been collapsed together.

Even today, there are plenty of Americans who would probably be hard-pressed to correctly name the start and end dates of our Civil War; I'm not trying to claim that the availability of historical information means we all know it in accurate detail. But at least the information is there, and characters who need to know it can find it. Furthermore, our knowledge is expanding all the time, thanks to archaeology and the recovery of forgotten or erased documents. Now and in the future, the challenge tends to lie more in the ability to sift through a mountain of data to find what you need, and in the arguments over how that data should be interpreted.

But in any story modeled on an earlier kind of society, I roll my eyes when characters are easily able to learn what happened six hundred years ago, and moreover the story they get is one hundred percent correct. That just ain't how it goes. The past is dark, and when you shine a light into its depths, you might get twelve different reflections bouncing back at you, as competing narratives each remember those events in variable ways.

For a writer, though, I don't think that's a bug. It's a feature. Let your characters struggle with this challenge! Muddy the waters with contradictory accounts! If you want your readers to know the "real" story, write that as a bonus for your website or a standalone piece of related fiction. Then you get to have your cake and eat it, too.

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(originally posted at Swan Tower: https://is.gd/Tnyzpz)
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There are all kinds of reading challenges and goals that people like to do. Some are individual, others are group events. Some are all year, others shorter. Some have speculative fiction themes, others are ordinary. They span a great many different formats including but not limited to fiction, poetry, nonfiction, and fanfic. Here are some for your inspiration. On Dreamwidth, see communities for books.

You can pick whichever challenge(s) you want to set as a goal in 2026 and reply with a comment. Below the list of challenges is a short form for listing which you have chosen. Make a post in your blog like "I signed up for the Reading challenge in [community profile] goals_on_dw" -- or list the specific challenge if you're doing an official one somewhere else instead of a personal one here. Then make a tag for it like "Reading Challenge" and put that on the post; it should stick that way. Check your Interests page to see if you have Reading, Fiction, Meta, Science Fiction, Fanfic, etc. listed there, which helps people find you. You don't have to sign up to participate, it just helps spread the word and attract more readers.

For printables to track your progress, see Books & Reading in Thematic Trackers or Challenges by Numbers.

There is a Bingo Card Generator if you want to make your own using premade lists or whatever prompts you want to paste in. Various sizes and styles are available.

See also the Fannish 50 challenge, which simply aims to post fifty entries on any topic in fandom. If you want to review every book you read all year, or compile a list of favorite fanfics you've found, go for it. You can even double-count anything that applies to two or more goals, e.g. [community profile] 50books_poc and Fannish 50.

Do you know of any other reading challenges in 2026? Share a link so they can be added to the list of options.

Read more... )

December Days 02025 #18: Essayist

Dec. 18th, 2025 11:31 pm
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It's December Days time again. This year, I have decided that I'm going to talk about skills and applications thereof, if for no other reason than because I am prone to both the fixed mindset and the downplaying of any skills that I might have obtained as not "real" skills because they do not fit some form of ideal.

18: Essayist )

friday 5; about me

Dec. 19th, 2025 01:09 am
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1. What is one thing about you that you hate?

most everything.

2. What is one thing about you that you love?
i have a pretty good imagination. for better or worse.

3. If you had to change one thing about you what would it be and why?

i'd loose some weight. it would provably help my knees.

4. What is one word that you would use to define yourself?
basic.

5. Imagine what you would look like in a perfect world...what do you look like?
about 4 inches taller, better hair, thinner, feet that are not wide width or with a high instep, better skin, smaller nose, fuller lips, lower forehead.

more answers are over here.

Due South fic beta?

Dec. 19th, 2025 07:43 pm
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Hi guys - anyone able to beta a short (~2300) due South fic for me, for the Secret Santa? It's Fraser/Vecchio. Deadline for the go-live is the 24th Dec. TIA if you can!

HR S1E5

NSFW Dec. 18th, 2025 10:17 pm
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Busy busy dance dance

Dec. 18th, 2025 09:45 pm
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Yesterday I worked up until it was time to bike over to my chiropractic appointment (20 minute appointment, a small amount of adjusting with an activator, mostly really good bodywork), biked back over the ridge between me and the lake, stopped at CVS for Opcon A but the lines were too long, ate a quick dinner, and biked across town for the Balkan dance night at Ashkenaz.

Biked across town for that last week, but last week it turned out they were having a Grateful Dead revival band instead, so I turned around and biked home.

This week, it was indeed the dance night, and I had a good time. My ankle felt solid, and I had enough stamina for the fast dances again. It felt really good! My ankle was a little achy on the bike ride home, but it didn't bother me today, so hopefully it was tendons being put under strain in a good way, for more healing. I used to think any tendon pain was a problem, but my PT swore up and down it could be ok.

When I got home I sent a couple of emails I hadn't had time to send earlier, thought about what to post, and turned around and fell into bed. I didn't realize until this morning that I had missed a day. Oh well!

Today, I worked up until time for my weight training lesson (good thing it's just down the block!), came home, ate a Go Macro bar and fed the cat, and then my friend was here to pick me up to go to his mini-golf birthday party. It was fun to hang out with his friends. And I actually won, even though I have no technique. Depth perception really helps!

We got home late, so I only ran part of my zoom Balkan dance group, and then chatted with my friend. Now I am writing to you folks with my cat curled in my lap, and then I will take a short hot bath with epsom salt in hopes of avoiding being very sore tomorrow.

Sore or not, I'm really enjoying picking up heavy things and putting them down again. I like the present-moment body awareness when the weight is heavy enough to have my full attention, but not too heavy.

Tomorrow I'm working, and I have an eye doctor appointment in the afternoon, and then I'm seeing Kitka in concert in the evening. Hopefully not with my eyes dilated. 'Tis the busy holiday season!

Wishing everyone a Happy Hanukkah. We need all the light we can get!
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Sharing a few gems that I've loved from the [community profile] ficinabox exchange. Crossposting to [community profile] womansplace for their [community profile] rec_cember reccing event!

All creators are still anonymous!

we can get a little restless [art]
DC Comics, Diana, SFW (but a bit suggestive)
Really vibrant, colourful style! A pin-up style pose, fabulously flirty.

the whisperings and the champagnes and the stars [fic]
Andor (TV), Kleya Marki/Vel Sartha, rated M
This is outstanding, and pulls no punches! Excellent dialogue and characterization, and smolderingly hot but spiky chemistry between them.

the Fairy and the Human [art + card game reskin + plushie pattern]
Original Work, Fairy Queen/Young Woman Who Unwittingly Entered Her Realm, rated G
Gorgeous! This link goes to the first chapter which is stunning art of the queen and the young woman, with really lovely composition and beautiful colours and textures. But the creator has also created an entire reskinned board game with fairyland creatures, a cute sticker set, and even a small plushie pattern. I'm overwhelmed by the creativity, so cool!
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Sharing a few gems that I've loved from the [community profile] ficinabox exchange. All creators are still anonymous!

Fandom: DC Comics
Fanwork type: art
Pairings/Characters: Diana
Rating and/or Content Warnings: SFW (but a bit suggestive)
Links: we can get a little restless
Summary:
Diana and a beautiful evening.

Reccer's Notes: Really vibrant, colourful style! A pin-up style pose, fabulously flirty.

Fandom: Andor (TV)
Fanwork type: fic
Pairings/Characters: Kleya Marki/Vel Sartha
Rating and/or Content Warnings: M
Links: the whisperings and the champagnes and the stars
Summary:
“That’s not what this is.” There is something about this, about all of this situation - the light, the faint jasmine lift of the scent Vel’s wearing, the casual, careless wealth - that Kleya cannot stand.

“You don’t like me and you can’t stand knowing you’re capable of being that petty. That’s exactly what this is.”

And that’s too much. “As I said, it's valuable work. Sorry you’re struggling with the burden of seducing rich socialites or whatever it is you’re doing but at least the catering’s good, right?”


The Aldhani mission fails. Vel blinks out of Kleya's life - only to reappear at a party six months later.

Reccer's Notes: This is outstanding, and pulls no punches! Excellent dialogue and characterization, and smolderingly hot but spiky chemistry between them.

Fandom: Original Work
Fanwork type: art, board game reskin, plushie pattern
Pairings/Characters: Fairy Queen/Young Woman Who Unwittingly Entered Her Realm
Rating and/or Content Warnings: G
Links: the Fairy and the Human
Summary:
There are legends about the fairy realm. Tales of wonder and the tales to scare children from the forest, where the entrance to the magical kingdom is supposed to be located.

Some believe in those tales; some don't, but no human dares to seek the truth and enter the fairy realm. Until one day, a woman running away from her past crosses the border and walks into the unknown.

Reccer's Notes: Gorgeous! This link goes to the first chapter which is stunning art of the queen and the young woman, with really lovely composition and beautiful colours and textures. But the creator has also created an entire reskinned board game with fairyland creatures, a cute sticker set, and even a small plushie pattern. I'm overwhelmed by the creativity, so cool!
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I got down there two hours after high tide, in this case making the tide about five feet. It seemed high at first but things turned out well, and the Black Skimmers put on a show for me, flying back and forth in a long flock. One even made a brief attempt at skimming near shore. I was pretty happy seeing them so well. There was also a large flock of Least Sandpipers flying in a cloud, which I love. One list: )

Today there were two Spotted Sandpipers in the channel.:) From there I drove out to Vincent Park looking for the Black Scoters who are back again this Winter. Both were seen a couple of days ago but I (and everyone else who reported Black Scoter today) only found one. They are so striking, all black with a bright yellow-orange knob on their nose. There were also Surf Scoters and Bufflehead, Eared Grebes and California Gulls. I also saw the Pacific Loon that's been reported, but so briefly that I let it go. Two lists: )

As I was scanning for the other Black Scoter a Belted Kingfisher splashed into the Harbor right in front on me, making three unsuccessful attempts at whatever they were after before flying off. And there was a Spotted Sandpiper.:)
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