how do I use alumni contacts in my job search?
Nov. 6th, 2025 06:59 pmA reader writes:
I’m job searching, and I often come across jobs where alumni of my college currently work.
If I don’t know the person/people, how would I ask for their help in getting an interview or anything else related to the job I’ve applied to? I think that would be very awkward, and I don’t know why they would be inclined to help, since they don’t know me.
The idea isn’t to reach out to a stranger and say, “Will you help me get an interview?” It’s to connect as a fellow alum and ask for their guidance more broadly.
For example:
“Hi Jane! I’m a fellow alum of Sorghum State — class of 2019! I’m trying to break into the breakfast cereal field and am really interested in BarleyCo in particular. I’ve just applied for the barley quality analyst job there, and when I saw a Sorghum alumnus working there, I wanted to ask whether you might have 10 or 15 minutes for a call about the company and the field more broadly.”
It’s even better if you can give an example of a couple of the questions you’re hoping to pose to them, so they can get a better sense of whether they’re likely to be useful to you, and also because it demonstrates that you’re being thoughtful about their time and not just hoping to get a referral out of it. (If you’re thinking “but I really just want a referral,” broaden your goals! They might know of other leads that would be right for you or just have useful insights to share.)
The idea is that a lot of people feel a connection to people from their school and will be friendlier and more likely to help if you mention it. You’ve had a shared experience, to some extent have a shared frame of reference, and are part of the same network, and the person you’re contacting may have received help from fellow alumni themselves and feel good about paying it forward.
This works particularly well if you went to a small school or to one with a really active alumni network, but you can do it for any school (but in my experience, the smaller the school, the more excited people are to find a fellow alum and help you).
Plus, a lot of schools have alumni networks that alums can specifically opt into if they’re open to this kind of thing, so you might check with your school’s career center or alumni office and ask about that. If they have a directory like that and the person is listed in it, you’ll know ahead of time that they’ve expressed openness to being contacted this way.
Also, include your resume so they get a sense of your professional background and how far along you are in your career.
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how much do I need to accommodate employees’ religion?
Nov. 6th, 2025 05:29 pmA reader writes:
I was curious about where the line is on religious accommodation, and at what point it’s okay to say an accommodation cannot be made.
I had an employee who needed an accommodation that allowed them to take lunch at a different time from the rest of the company once a week. This was somewhat inconvenient but I was able to accommodate them. Later they let me know that they were going to need additional accommodations, which again were doable but inconvenient. I also noticed that their work performance suffered during certain times when they told me they needed to fast for their religion. They didn’t make me aware of any of these needed accommodations until they’d been hired and working for a couple of weeks. At one point someone suggested that in order for me to accommodate this employee I should to work additional hours myself.
Ultimately I was able to accommodate this employee with minimal frustration, but what if it hadn’t been as easy? What if there’d been a standing meeting that they were needed for during the time they needed to take their lunch that couldn’t be easily moved? I want to be as supportive and flexible as possible but at what point am I able to say “this goes past reasonable”?
I answer this question — and two others — over at Inc. today, where I’m revisiting letters that have been buried in the archives here from years ago (and sometimes updating/expanding my answers to them). You can read it here.
Other questions I’m answering there today include:
- Is it reasonable to expect a multi-year commitment for an entry-level job?
- CC’ing a manager to compliment their employee
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when office potlucks and catered parties go wrong
Nov. 6th, 2025 03:59 pmAs we approach to the season of office potlucks, catered parties, and other holiday meals with coworkers, let’s discuss the many ways in which they can go wrong — from alarming cuisine to cheap-ass rolls to riots over the chili cook-off to tantrums over insufficiently abundant shrimp.
Please share your stories of potlucks, cooking competitions, catered parties, and other office meals gone awry!
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