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Posted by jacquilynne

These intricately beaded, massively heavy yet somehow also ethereal gowns from Cambodian brand Almée Couture showed unofficially at NYFW this year. When I saw Time Voyage on IG, I was going to block the account as AI, that's how intricate and amazing it is.

Yes, I am editorializing in the FPP, but, I mean, just look at these things! Don't they flabber your gast? I found stories about the show in what seem to be relatively credible sources, so I assume it actually took place.
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I just discovered that you can make the perfect peppermint hot chocolate with Ritter Sport Peppermint. (I expect After Eight mints or similar would work too.) It turned out super delicious, so I need to share the joy!

Proportions: 250ml milk / 25g Ritter Sport Peppermint.

Just put the chocolate into the milk and heat in the microwave in short bursts, stirring thorougly in between, until it's entirely melted. (It pays to use a glass and not a porcelain mug, so you can see whether it's fully incorporated. *g*) Add a little sweetener to taste. YUM. :D
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Posted by theory

"While I've been doing archaeology in New Orleans for more than a quarter-of-a-century, I never feel like I've seen it all. There are always surprises and new mysteries to solve. Still, it is rare for those routine questions to become truly international in scope and involve an interdisciplinary team of scholars, museum professionals and the FBI. But that is exactly what happened earlier this year."
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Posted by chavenet

Mr. Mathews did not specify how many of the 400 participants had cheated, but said that it was only a few contestants. He did not share their names. When Mr. Mathews contacted the contestants in question, he said that they immediately admitted that they had cheated and accepted that they would be retroactively disqualified from this year's competition. from A Bucolic Stone-Skimming Contest in Scotland Is Infiltrated by Cheaters [NYT; ungated]
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I've been having so much fun with Silksong, an incredible game. There's so much to explore!
I finally got to the first ending (could have done it earlier but now felt like a good time) and that seems like a good point to post, uh, 9.5k of notes about my playthrough.

Act 2: Citadel of Song. Part 1 )
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Posted by Ask a Manager

A reader writes:

I have worked in the evolving field of IT all of my four-decade career. Most of my jobs have been exempt from overtime, while my last few tech support / help desk positions have been non-exempt. I’ve always been a slower (and I think, more thorough) worker who needs more time to get my work done and who has no problem working late, even most evenings, to get the job done.

This has been fine in my exempt positions, as I’ve had freedom to work as many hours as I want / need, and supervisors have mostly been quite pleased with my work. In my first couple of non-exempt roles, I would still work longer hours but leave the hours beyond 40 off of my time sheets, unless management had requested something special — and this worked out well, too.

However, in my last non-exempt role, it came to my supervisor’s attention that I was working more than 40 hours a week, and he told me that this must stop. I countered that I don’t mind doing it, and since I leave the extra hours off my time sheet, it doesn’t cost the company anything. But he said I could not do that any longer, as it was a misrepresentation, and that overtime pay would not be approved.

Consequently, I started completing fewer tasks each day and was placed on a performance improvement plan where the main focus was to improve my time management and multi-tasking ability. I was able to make some improvement, but it was deemed insufficient and I was terminated for not meeting the job requirements.

I understand that the letter of the law means that all hours over 40 in one week must be paid at time and a half for non-exempt positions, but many employers will not approve it or might approve for a couple of extra hours but not more, and then look the other way for employees who need more time to complete their work and so leave the rest off their time sheets. Honestly, I’d rather work the extra hours without additional pay, which I did all the time when I was in exempt positions, than be terminated for not meeting job requirements.

So in some cases such as this, I believe the overtime labor laws can be unfair, and that workers should have the right to opt out. What do you think of this?

The problem is that if you give workers the right to opt out from overtime pay requirements, you’ll immediately have situations where they’re pressured to do that by their employers.

In your case, it sounds as if you’d genuinely choose to opt out via your own free will, but many, many people would not and would still end up pressured by their employers to do it anyway. And the more in need of paying work someone is, the more vulnerable they’re likely to be to that pressure.

That’s why the law doesn’t make it optional. And that’s why any responsible employer needs to do what your last one did and tell you that you can’t work unauthorized overtime even if you don’t mind it. They’re still liable for paying you for those hours, even if you try to explicitly excuse them from it. Legally, they’re required to pay you the overtime whether you want it or not … and they could end up paying fines and penalties down the road if they don’t.

In your situation, it sounds like you are really well-suited for exempt positions where you can work additional hours without it triggering mandatory overtime pay, and those are the positions you should look for.

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TV Tuesday: Getting Your Attention

Oct. 7th, 2025 12:16 pm
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Although it’s still possible to see shows ad-free, this not only costs more but some options are ad-only. So how do you deal with ads?

Poll #33698 Ad Free TV
This poll is anonymous.
Open to: Registered Users, detailed results viewable to: All, participants: 48

How do you feel about ads in your TV programs?

View Answers

I don't mind them
5 (10.4%)

I dislike having ads
14 (29.2%)

I hate having to see ads
22 (45.8%)

I like watching ads
1 (2.1%)

It depends on the ads
3 (6.2%)

It depends on the shows
3 (6.2%)

How many ad seconds per half hour are too much?

View Answers

Any
24 (53.3%)

10-20 seconds total
3 (6.7%)

Up to 60 seconds total
5 (11.1%)

Up to 120 seconds total
10 (22.2%)

Up to 240 seconds total
2 (4.4%)

Up to 360 seconds total
1 (2.2%)

Over 360 seconds
0 (0.0%)

Have you ever gotten personalized ads when watching shows?

View Answers

Yes
6 (13.0%)

No
13 (28.3%)

Not sure
27 (58.7%)

Would you prefer product placement to ads?

View Answers

Yes
3 (6.4%)

No
15 (31.9%)

Depends on how intrusive the product placement is
25 (53.2%)

Depends on the show
3 (6.4%)

Depends on the products
1 (2.1%)

If you don't like ads, what makes them intrusive?

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Takes time to watch/forward through
27 (60.0%)

Too much repetition of the same ad/product
36 (80.0%)

Interrupts the narrative too frequently
32 (71.1%)

Jarring shift from show to ad
32 (71.1%)

Ads are louder than shows
30 (66.7%)

Causes technical problems
7 (15.6%)

Something else I'll mention in comments
3 (6.7%)

Are there ads you would like to see?

View Answers

No
31 (67.4%)

Yes, if they featured products I like
1 (2.2%)

Yes, if they featured people I like
3 (6.5%)

Yes, if they were funny
6 (13.0%)

Yes, if they were emotional/enjoyable
5 (10.9%)

Yes, if they were for other shows I might like
10 (21.7%)

Yes, if they were for tie-in things to the show I'm watching
3 (6.5%)

Yes, if they were gamified
0 (0.0%)

Yes, if the product connected to the show in a fun way
4 (8.7%)

Yes, something else I'll mention in comments
3 (6.5%)

S.W.A.T.: Fan Fiction: Garden Party

Oct. 7th, 2025 12:57 pm
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Title: Garden Party
Rating: NC-17
Warnings: Explicit Sex
Fandom: S.W.A.T.
Relationships: Donovan Rocker/Molly Hicks
Tags: Getting Together, Monsterfucking, Succubus Molly, Human Rocker, Consensual Everything, Sounding, Anal Sex,
Summary: Rocker finds the garden alluring during the party, ready to get his deepest desires filled.
Word Count: 3,217

Story )

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Posted by Ask a Manager

Here are three updates from past letter-writers.

1. Employee gets special privileges because she’s dating an NBA player

I didn’t have time to go to my manager regarding your advice because days after your response was posted, Cersei’s boyfriend broke up with her. As a side note, she lived with him in his very nice house. So I imagine it was a very painful breakup and was further complicated by the logistics of having to move out.

Morale has slightly lifted but not by much because of the anticipation that special treatment for Cersei will manifest in a different way. It certainly leaves a bad taste in your mouth to know that her summer WFH status stopped because her relationship imploded, not because the executives realized how unfair it was.

A week ago, I discussed with my boss that we almost lost three people because of this. I mentioned that we need to avoid this happening in the future, with Cersei or anyone else, and with WFH or anything else that could be deemed as special treatment. He agreed it was in poor taste of the executive team, but didn’t think much could be done. Unfortunately, companies like mine don’t care about high turnover. Losing seasoned employees doesn’t faze them one bit. They just shrug their shoulders and attempt to hire replacements as quickly as possible. I am currently planning my exit. As you can imagine, this is one of several issues at my workplace.

To clear up some confusion from the comment section — pro athletes have a couple months off during the summer. Since her boyfriend is not from the city of his NBA team, he would often go to his hometown during his time off. Cersei was granted the ability to WFH so she could travel with him during this time.

2. Can I learn to thrive under a hyper-critical boss?

First of all, thank you so much for responding to my letter so quickly. I was really in the pits of despair. I took screenshots of a number of the comments and used them as (sometimes daily) reminders. Some things that really helped, based on commenter suggestions:
– focused on “my best work” instead of “make Jane happy”
– changed my delivery method to Jane — I looked at how she communicated to her boss and copied that
– continuous reminders to myself that this is a Jane problem, not a me problem, which helped me to separate her extreme criticism from my actual performance

Things also improved in part because once the division grew, her intensity was spread out over more people, projects and funders. From my vantage point, her style is the same, and it definitely impacts those around her.

When Jane became too busy to micromanage me, things got so much better. The work remained rigorous and complex, and I can now look back on the past few years and see a clear upward trajectory in my skills and level of responsibility, even if that responsibility was begrudgingly given.

I am very aware that I have picked up on some of Jane’s style, and am continually monitoring myself to make sure I’m not sacrificing kindness and flexibility for efficiency or “being right.”

Thanks again to Alison and all of the commenters. I read this blog regularly and recommend it to anyone I come across with work questions or struggles. It has helped me through so many workplace interactions that require leadership, compassion, communication and consistency.

3. Quitting my job while my manager is on vacation (#5 at the link)

Turns out you were right, I did get the offer and it did take longer than expected (it was three weeks after I sent that question!), so the timing worked out fine after all. That’s good, since my boss’s boss was also on vacation, and I would’ve felt a little silly going higher up than that! But it’s good to know most reasonable places are going to also be reasonably flexible about when I can give an answer.

I’m on my second week at the new place, and it’s better than my old job in every way imaginable. I used a ton of your advice to help me through the entire interview process, so thank you again for everything you do! It’s much appreciated.

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[community profile] hlh_shortcuts '25 sign-ups are open through this Saturday, October 11. Last year, I flat forgot to request/offer Grace, and Randi was accidentally glitched from the tagset, but I just now checked and they seem (haven't submitted yet to confirm) to both be available this year, yay! (Thank you, mods.)

I would like to not regret missing characters this year. So I'm pre-compiling a list of all my possibilities (may not use them all, but these are my candidates). If you're interested, let me know of any characters you think I might want to request or offer who are not yet here...?

List )
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Posted by Ask a Manager

A reader writes:

I work in an industry notorious for poor work-life balance.

Our company has an unlimited PTO policy, with most people on the team taking about 15-20 days, usually no more than five straight days at a time. (So one week off per quarter, just about.)

I have a team member who has asked for feedback. She wants to grow and be assigned more high-profile, visible projects. The quality of her work is average to slightly above average, so there’s room for growth there. On top of this, the main thing I believe is preventing her from achieving these goals is that people perceive her to be on vacation all the time. I’d say she’ll end up taking around 30 days (six weeks off) this year, and unlike most members of the team, more than a full office week at a time. Management never denies her the days off, and since she’s not on more high-profile projects, the coverage has not been a problem.

Like I said, our industry culture is extreme and we push ourselves to burnout. It’s really not sustainable at the end of the day, so it’s honestly refreshing to see her try to have a personal life. Our office encourages us to have time off (within reason), and because we technically have unlimited PTO, she’s not breaking policy. But her personal life is not aligning with what she wants to achieve professionally. Is it poor advice for me to suggest she should take less vacation to prove she’s capable of handling more visible projects?

Well … this isn’t quite “you can take the time off if you want it, but we’re going to hold it against you,” but it’s close. If she’s taking too much time off within the context of your culture and industry expectations, she deserves to know that. If she keeps asking for time off and it keeps getting approved, it’s not unreasonable that she thinks it’s fine. (And yes, people should look around and observe norms and calibrate accordingly, particularly when it’s a field-wide expectation, but management has a role to play there too.)

Now, maybe the amount of time off she’s taking is fine for her current role, and it’s only a problem if she’s looking to take on different projects. That’s more fair! In that case, you should very clearly spell out how this works in your company. For example: “I want to be up-front that to be assigned to projects like X and Y, you’d likely need to take less time off than you do currently. Right now my sense is that there’s a perception that you’re gone a lot, which would be an obstacle to putting you on more high-profile work. So realistically, you’d need to decide if you’re willing to use less vacation in order to be considered for those projects, or whether that’s not a trade-off that’s worth it to you.”

Think of it as sharing the playbook that everyone else is using, so she can make the right decisions for herself.

For what it’s worth: if the 15-20 days a year that most people take includes sick leave as well as vacation, that’s really low and I’d urge your company to reconsider the way they frame their policy, because that is not what new hires are going to envision when they hear “unlimited time off,” even in an industry notorious for poor work-life balance.

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Somos el mejor país de Chile

Oct. 7th, 2025 02:39 pm
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Posted by signal

31 Minutos, the best Chilean puppet show to ever perform on Tiny desk.

31 Minutos is a Chilean TV show, but more than that, it's an institution of Latin American children's programming. Known for being equal parts educational and just plain silly, it's smart, cutting and dynamic in its presentation of Chilean social issues and broader culture. In between classic rock refrains characteristic of the Southern Cone and cutesy choral moments, the puppeteers and musicians of 31 Minutos transform the Desk into a true playground. Everyone is invited to sing, dance, laugh and celebrate the show's first trip ever to the United States.

characters20in20 Round 19

Oct. 7th, 2025 10:30 am
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Link: Round 19 Sign Ups | Round 19 Themes

Description: [community profile] characters20in20 is a 20in20 community dedicated to making icons of characters from movies and tv shows. You have 20 days to make 20 icons about a character of your choice, based on a set of themes for the round.

Schedule: Round 19 sign ups are open NOW. Icons are due October 27, 2025.

TrickOrTreatEx seeking pinch-hits

Oct. 7th, 2025 07:24 am
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Some of you might possibly be interested to know that [community profile] trickortreatex is currently looking for pinch-hitters for The Lost Boys (movies) and "Buffyverse" (TV), among other fandoms. Due October 24. Minimum 300 words (yep, 300). Read their post.

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Title: the beauty of dangerous things
Fandom: Thunderbolts (MCU)
Characters: Robert “Bob” Reynolds & John Walker
Length: 887 words
Rating: Teen
Warnings: vague suicidal ideation references, mental health issues, poisonous plants, hurt/comfort
Notes: written for [community profile] fan_flashworks “garden” and Post-July Breaks Bingo “There’s something wrong with me.”
Summary: Bob finds John’s greenhouse filled with poisonous plants.

the beauty of dangerous things )
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