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Title: Somewhere that’s green
Fandom: Torchwood
Characters: Ianto, Jack
Author: m_findlow
Rating: PG
Length: 2,097 words
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Author notes: Written for Challenge 493 - Garden
Summary: Jack has a proposition for Ianto that includes something he’s never had before.

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no fandom : icons : gardens

Oct. 9th, 2025 01:13 am
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Title: gardens
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Summary: icons of pretty gardens


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Francine, the feline-in-residence at the downtown branch of the Lowe's hardware store in Richmond, VA, is currently all over the place, after having gone missing for a while. Lowe's | NPR | Associated Press | Washington Post | Wikipedia
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It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go…

1. When your coworker is your Uber driver

This happened to a coworker, not me, but now I’m paranoid it will. She told me that over the weekend she and her roommate got in an Uber to get to a bar, and the driver was our other coworker. I have nothing against side hustles/second jobs (I work one myself, as a bartender at a theater), but of all the people we work with (we’re standard office workers at a large employer in our city) I would not have expected this specific person to take up Uber driving for extra cash.

So, WWYD? My coworker said she was pretty silent the entire time but did acknowledge/greet our coworker/driver. I wouldn’t know how to act, especially if I was coming home after a night out and not sober, or with a date, or just having a bad day.

This doesn’t need to be a big deal! You’d treat the coworker like you would if the driver were anyone else you knew — meaning, greet them warmly, ask how they’re doing, and, if you’re up to it, make pleasant conversation during the drive. It’s no different than your own second job, or than if you ran into them on, say, a subway. I know the power dynamics might feel a little weird — you are now paying them to provide you with a service — but treat it like you would any other unexpected public encounter with someone you know from work, and it doesn’t need to be awkward at all.

If you weren’t in a frame of mind where you could easily carry on a warm conversation (whether from a bad day or whatever else), you could say, “I hope you don’t mind, I’m exhausted and was planning to just rest my eyes during the drive.” That’s probably a good strategy if you aren’t sober as well, to avoid lowered inhibitions leading you to say anything you normally wouldn’t.

2. My colleague has hives because of the stress of our jobs

I work in an industry that doesn’t seem stressful from the outside (arts and heritage) but, due to under-staffing, lack of clear exhibition schedules/timelines, and poorly defined job scopes, is really stressful. I have considered leaving multiple times, but the industry is small and it would be hard to get a similar job elsewhere.

Recently I found out that one of my colleagues has had full body hives for over a year. She told me and another colleague over lunch when we were talking about stress at work, and she said that her doctor has advised her to take a sabbatical. In the meantime she is taking antihistamines daily. However, she does not feel like she can take a sabbatical because we have ongoing projects that will only be completed in another year.

I was shocked to hear that and urged her to take a sabbatical. I lead one of the teams she is on and know that we could distribute her work while she is recovering. However, she said she doesn’t feel like she could.

A couple of days after that, I discovered that an ex-colleague also had full body hives from the stress of working our job. She has since left and the hives have gone.

I feel very concerned for the colleague who is currently experiencing hives. Is this something I should report to our manager? Or would that be a betrayal of her confidence?

Nope, don’t share it with your manager; this is your colleague’s private medical information and how she manages it is up to her. You can certainly raise concerns about stress and unsustainable workloads, and you can encourage your coworker to take time off/brainstorm with her about how to make that happen, but your coworker’s hives (two coworker’s hives, in fact — !!) are not yours to share.

3. Changing clothes in a non-locking office

I recently got my very own office — yay! It has no windows and is completely private, though it doesn’t lock. Is it unprofessional to change clothes in the office, rather than in the bathroom or a downstairs locker room? The office doesn’t have a culture of barging in without knocking, and people mostly leave each other alone unless the door is open.

I wouldn’t change clothes in a non-locking office unless you put a sign on the door saying “please knock.” Even if the culture of your office is not to enter without knocking, it’s still possible that someone might one day — they shouldn’t! but they could — and it’s just far better for everyone (you and them) not to have to deal with stages of undress at work.

4. Will my random email address hurt me in my job search?

I am new to searching for professional jobs. I have a random email address that I used for applying to colleges and scholarships, like 753rlaf61@gmail.com. Also, the name associated with it (my name, but not including my last name) shows up in an inbox as all lowercase. Will this random email be a mark against me as I apply for professional jobs? My name is too common for me to get myname@gmail.com, but I could get an email like myname[random numbers]@gmail.com. Would this make any difference at all when I am applying for jobs? If it would make a difference, is there a format or a few formats for the email address that you would recommend?

It won’t make any difference. If you wanted to look absolutely as polished as possible, you’d get an address more like name[random numbers]@ and also capitalize your name in the “from” field correctly, but no one is going to reject you for not having that, or even think much about it (if at all).

5. Should I mention performance ratings in my resume?

I work at a FAANG company known for being pretty tough/competitive in its performance ratings. Would getting the maximum rating multiple times be something worth mentioning in either a resume, a cover letter, or an interview?

When I interview people, I often have to probe pretty hard to get to what constitutes exceeding expectations at their company versus just doing one’s job, or whether someone was actually driving innovation versus riding along with their team, or whether their cool project actually met a business need. A high performance rating seems like convenient shorthand for “I accomplished things and my employers considered them valuable and my role in them important,” but I can’t recall anyone I’ve interviewed bringing up high performance ratings (as opposed to, say, actual awards), and I’m coming up on having interviewed 100 candidates at this company, so I’m wondering if it’s gauche.

It’s not gauche. Resumes can include things like, “Achieved highest company rating on annual performance evaluation all six years.” If you can quantify that, even better: “Achieved highest company rating on annual performance evaluation — awarded only to top 5% of employees — in all six years.” Even if you can’t quantify it like that, though, it’s still worth including; your interviewer can probe about how rigorously the company operated if they want to.

You just have to make sure to word it in a way that doesn’t inadvertently signal the opposite of what you intend to accomplish. Like if you were there six years, you wouldn’t want to say, “Achieved highest company rating on annual performance evaluation in 2022.” You want it to sound really superlative.

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A birthday? In this economy?!

Oct. 9th, 2025 02:36 am
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Posted by subdee

I received this email from Erica Payne of Patriotic Millionaires today and enjoyed it so much, I thought I would share the entire text. I hope you all enjoy it as much as I did.

Dear [redacted], Today is my birthday. Some people do not like their birthdays. I am not one of those people. I love my birthday. People have to be nice to you and you can pretty much do/say whatever you want (within reason). Anyway, I'm 56 today, which is both old enough to know better and too damn old to care. And I've got a few things to say... about Democrats, Republicans, progressives, and Jonathan Chait. Not necessarily in that order. So happy birthday to me. Buckle up. Let's start with the confidently incorrect Jonathan Chait, a senior writer for The Atlantic whose piece this week—titled Democrats Still Have No Idea What Went Wrong—is particularly obtuse, even by his standards (this is, after all, the guy who said, "If he does win, a Trump presidency would probably wind up doing less harm to the country than a Marco Rubio or a Cruz presidency. It might even, possibly, do some good.") The subtitle of Chait's piece is "The party's progressives seem to think the problem is not with their platform but with the voters" and he goes on to cherry-pick little bits of various speakers' comments (including mine) from the Persuasion 2025 DC event on September 30th to weave together a story about how progressive support of various social positions and various types of humans doomed the Democratic Party to defeat. And he asserts, quite aggressively, that rather than admitting it, progressives are getting "defensive," denying poll results, and "dismissing" the "false consciousness" of "working-class voters facing economic stress." Chait pulled a quote from my presentation of the Patriotic Millionaires' MONEY Agenda to make his point. Here's what he said: "What's more, where voters do support regressive positions, Democrats should dismiss this as a kind of false consciousness. As various speakers argued, working-class voters facing economic stress tend to lash out at vulnerable targets. 'When people are psychologically insecure, they are incapable of being welcoming to people who are different than them,' the activist Erica Payne said. 'This is about money. Money, money, money, money, money, money, money.'" I'm annoyed that Chait intentionally/unintentionally misrepresented both my point and the perspective of the entire conference, and that he intentionally/unintentionally left out specifics about the conference that would likely affect, if not entirely change, any reader's perception of the entire topic. And I'm really sick of this kind of misdirection, so I'm taking my birthday to respond. But what I really want is to have a conversation with him, publicly, about this nonsense he and the rest of the confederacy of dunces is spouting. So if you know him, please forward him this email. And if you really want to know what I said, you can see a snippet of my remarks below: This is about money, which Jonathan Chait would know if he actually listened to my presentation First of all, history backs up what I said about psychological insecurity leading people to scapegoat others for their problems. It's not an accident that as inequality has increased around the world, so has support for right-wing politicians, who blame groups like immigrants or ethnic and racial minorities for working people's financial woes. Nevermind the fact that "the only minority destroying America is the billionaires." Second of all, as we discussed in last week's Closer Look, Democrats have absolutely, positively NOT moved too far left in terms of what people want for the economy. The complete opposite is true. People want a higher minimum wage. They want higher taxes on the wealthy and corporations. Their support for labor unions is at a 60-year high. They want something to be done about out-of-control CEO pay. Want a wildly popular agenda that cuts across party lines? Start there. On a side note, it's worth saying that it's not just the lack of money that adversely affects people's psyches, the abundance of money does as well. Professor Paul Piff from the University of California, Irvine is one of the world's foremost thinkers on the psychology of wealth and power. He has conducted dozens of studies over the years that have demonstrated that people with more wealth tend to be more selfish and less empathetic towards others. Professor Piff actually spoke at our 2021 conference, Power and Money in America, and discussed his famous rigged Monopoly game experiment. Check out a clip of his remarks below, starting at the 14:00 mark. As I said at the Persuasion event, this is all about money, money, money, money, money, money, money. Anything that is not about money is just a distraction to keep you from thinking about money. The problem in America today is NOT a room full of people who accept their fellow human beings in all of their beautiful complexity, and who believe, deep in their hearts, that none of us will be truly safe and free until everyone is safe and free—or, you know, all of the attendees at Persuasion 2025. The problem in America today is money. The problem in America today is that over many decades politicians of both parties have worked together to structure our economy in such a way that a small group of ever-richer people receive its benefits. The problem in America today is that 86% of people who live here are worried about the price of food, nearly 42% can't cover a $1,000 emergency expense and that $80 trillion that rightfully belonged to everyone ended up in the pockets of the top 1%. And yes they are pissed. They should be. And, yes, when you are pissed and worried and scared, it is really hard to be nice to anyone. And the reality is that in order to maintain this unsustainable, immoral, and frankly stupid economy, the richest people in the country fund both sides of the so-called culture wars to distract people from the fact that they are stealing their money, destroying their futures, and harming their families. And here's the thing, no one currently in charge has any intention of doing anything about it. Neither the Republicans who are currently in charge or the Democrats who were in charge before this, including in that "decade of nearly unchallenged [progressive] supremacy" to which Chait refers. Um. Excuse me, which decade was that exactly? And that's the actual problem we have to deal with. In 2016, Trump beat Hillary Clinton by bashing Wall Street, Democrats' connections to Wall Street, and running to the left on trade and entitlements. Hillary couldn't counter him in large part because her husband, the best Republican president since Ronald Reagan, passed NAFTA, Wall Street deregulation, and huge cuts to welfare programs. In 2017, with full control of the federal government, Republicans on a party-line vote rewrote the entire federal tax code. In 2018, for the first time in American history billionaires paid a lower effective tax rate than every single other group of people in the country. Then here come the Democrats. They regained control of the House in 2019 by running against huge tax cuts for the rich; then in 2021 when they had full control they... oh yeah, didn't raise taxes on the rich or raise the minimum wage—the only two economic levers powerful enough to actually change the economic futures of working people. Here's the hard truth. Neither the Republican Party nor the Democratic Party—as currently constructed—have any intention of dealing with the harsh economic reality that the vast majority of Americans currently suffer. They have no intention of restructuring the economy in any meaningful way. They have no intention of taxing their donors or raising the legal minimum wage for workers. Democrats lost in 2024 not because they are woke, but because they are complicit. And everyone knows it. Republicans won because inflation went nuts, Joe Biden went comatose and Kamala Harris spent at least one of her 107-day campaign sucking up to billionaires and another one publicly announcing that she thought they should pay lower tax rates than working people. They are not confused, they are culpable. They do not fight hard for the things that you want because they do not want those things. And with people like Jonathan Chait carrying water for the economic status quo, that is unlikely to change. The last point I'll make about Chait specifically is that, on some really basic level, he lies by omission. There are two things he left out when he quoted me that I think are relevant. The first is my organizational affiliation. Chait refers to me in his piece as "the activist Erica Payne." That's it. "The activist." He doesn't mention Patriotic Millionaires, the group I founded and have led for 16 years. No mention of the hundreds of successful business leaders, entrepreneurs, and corporate executives whose perspective I represent. No mention of the 16-year effort this group of "proud traitors to their class" has executed to reform the political economy, never taking a position on "social" issues. The only time we even talk about social issues is when we explain to people that we don't talk about them, think about them, or take positions on them. We don't even take positions on how tax revenues should be spent. We think that government spending decisions should be made by regular people through their elected representatives. Our job as an organization is just to make sure that, whatever those expenses/investments are, that millionaires, billionaires and corporations pay for more of them. And to argue that most good tax policy has exactly nothing to do with revenue-raising anyway. Maybe Chait did not mention the Patriotic Millionaires because he read our piece from last week and knows we're right on the money about what's really wrong with the Democratic Party. Or maybe he just didn't think to mention that the group has caught on around the world with chapters now in the UK and Canada. He must have forgotten that we've testified in front of the Senate Finance Committeetwice!—and given speeches at the United Nations, the Vatican, and the Annual Meetings of the International Monetary Fund and World Bank. And by the end of this year, our advocacy arm will have helped introduce two pieces of legislation capable of actually fixing what's wrong with this country: the Equal Tax Act, which ends the preferential treatment of capital over labor in the tax code, and the "First 45 Tax Free" idea—a cost of living tax cut for working people, paid for by millionaires. Senator Chris Van Hollen (D-MD) discussed the latter proposal during his opening session at the conference, something that no one reading Chait's article would know since he chose not to include this bold idea that could actually save the Democrats from themselves. He even failed to mention that Sen. Van Hollen was at the conference at all, which seems a little weird given all the recent press the Senator has gotten lately for challenging establishment Democrats for their failures. I could have chosen a lot of different ways to celebrate today, but instead I chose to sit in front of my computer screen for several hours to bitch about an article that tens of thousands of people read and probably forgot about. But hey, it's my birthday, and I'll rant if I want to. Tonight, when I blow out the candles on the fourth birthday cake of my birth month, I will be wishing for Democrats to get their shit together, and for working people—in all the wonderful shapes and sizes they come in—to work together to beat the billionaires and get an economy they deserve. Will that take a big tent? Yes. So if you're looking for one, come stop by ours. As for Jonathan? He's just another trick candle, pretending to light the way. Thank you for all you do, Erica Payne Founder and President, Patriotic Millionaires

Love's such an old-fashioned word

Oct. 8th, 2025 06:36 pm
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A while ago, [personal profile] minim_calibre asked me if I'd read any Kate Atkinson and I said I had, but it was very long ago--I read Behind the Scenes at the Museum and the first Jackson Brodie book after I fell in love with the Case Histories TV series with Jason Isaacs. She ended up buying me two books she'd read, Life After Life and A God in Ruins, and I finally had the chance to start on the first one, which is like four inches thick so felt pretty daunting. I'd been so busy with work (some truly awful, awful books [mygodihateYAsomuch] and one really good one that I wasn't sure I could do it, but I really wanted to keep my reading streak going. It's been so wonderful to reclaim the reading part of my life, I can't even tell you. It's also hugely inspirational to my own writing when I'm reading really good fiction--or heck even nonfiction.

If you've never read Life After Life, I can highly, highly recommend it. It'd be easy to say it's essentially a time loop story/multiple timeline tale, where little decisions or events have history-altering effects both personal and global, but that barely touches on the story. I just loved it and I'm looking forward to the related book about one of the characters, I hope it's as un-put-downable as Life After Life.

I discovered there was a BBC four-part limited series of it a couple years ago, on Prime in the US, and it was...okay. It should have been at least six episodes, though, because a book that sprawling requires a lot more time--there were significant cuts to the story that I think any fan of the book would be a bit twitchy about, and a major change to the ending. Still, a lot of good actors and it was nice to see some of the characters come to life.

It's just so nice to feel like I can read again after all these years. Like when I have my nose in a screen, it's because it's something that adds a little value in my life, rather than the horrible garbage of everyday life.

Yesterday, a friend and I went to a pumpkin patch and U-pick farm, because she's very into the gourds and cucurbits for art, and I wanted to have a nice outing. We lucked out and got the most spectacularly perfect, sunny day in the 70s, and I found a couple of beautiful pastel pumpkins (one kind of a mottled salmon and blue-green and the other a pale blue) as well as a starfish-shaped gourd to buy, even though I've never been into Halloween at all. I'm not sure if I'll put them out on the back porch or the front, the front's pretty crowded and small, but I think that's the "obvious" place for a Hallloweeny decoration. I also bought some apples from the farm's produce side, and the best sweet corn on the cob I have ever tasted in my life. It was so good we were texting each other about it. If I didn't live over an hour away, I would have driven right back there for more corn.

Everyone always says fall is their favorite season, but I think if you live somewhere where it is relatively dry in October, and the leaves change early, sure, it'd be fine, but in the PNW it's just suddenly cold, super wet, and miserably gray. The leaves are just soggy masses, so you don't get to wander outside in piles of dry leaves, wearing your woolen sweaters and scarves, feeling the sun on your face while you drink your punkin spice bullshit drinks. Nope, instead you have to wear your Gore-Tex jackets and waterproof shoes and hope your street won't flood when the heavy rains have nowhere to go because everything's clogged with slimy leaves. Bleh. Give me spring any day.

My numbers have been holding steady at a place where it looks like remission, though no one wants to say it is. I could have a bone marrow biopsy, and may still do that, to determine whether I really am there, but honestly, then I'm just going to be doing pretty much the same thing I'm doing now, because I'm essentially doing what Dr. Li does for maintenance on people who've gone through stem cell transplants or the new hotness, CAR-T cell therapy. I am sure there'll be some fiddling with drugs, but considering the nightmare of the insurance situations right now, I don't know what will happen.

I had a mammogram today and a DEXA scan (which just seems so nuts to me, as it's for osteoporosis and I feel like having bone marrow cancer means that osteoporosis is kind of a silly thing to worry about), and next week I go to the dermatologist, and hopefully I will get some of these things done before the nazi pricks can take everything away.

As always happens, at the mammogram, the technician, who was nice and did a pretty good job of not hurting me, mentioned knowing someone with multiple myeloma who's had it for 18 years now. I cannot tell you how often someone tells me about their family member/friend/co-worker who has it and who's lived with it for X years, and I just...I have to smile and say oh wow. I HATE IT.

It used to be a death sentence, but until just recently, there were new drugs being approved constantly so the survival rates and times have been increasing constantly, but it's by no means an easy survival for most, and there is no such thing as a "cure" where it disappears completely. It always comes back, and I've been confronted a lot lately with that because some people in our support group have died, both of whom had lived with it for a long time, going back into treatment each time it returned. It always does. Ugh, I wish people would shut the fuck up about it. I know they think they're being positive for me, but it's just not as simple as they think.

Otherwise, I just keep plugging along. Blues is definitely getting pretty frail and fragile, but his appetite is great, so I'm hoping he hangs on for a while longer. He has a concerning thing on his lower jaw that might be a cyst or might be cancer or anything in between, but it's in a tricky spot, so all we can do is watch it for now.

I know there are other things I wanted to talk about--including my rewatches of everything from the X-Files to the Good Place--but I'll save that for another post, this one's long and boring enough!

a few things make a post

Oct. 8th, 2025 09:50 pm
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1. After a little experimentation, I've found that it is possible to sing most popular Christmas carols (and possibly other songs) with the only lyrics being repeats of "Epstein". I suggest this for the use of protesters, as I imagine the lovely sounds of four part harmonies with a stunning effect on the bystanders.

2. Does anyone else have tinnitis? And if so, how do you manage to fall asleep when everything else is quiet? I have been listening to rain sounds on a recording, which helps, but it's hard to be relaxed and ready and just NOT tip over into sleep. Suggestions welcome!

3. Songs I have figured out (to some degree) on Native American flute: the guitar lead line to Layla (the piano interval is in C and very easy); the sax lead line to Gerry Rafferty's 'Baker Street'; the Beatles' 'Blackbird'; bits and pieces of many other Beatles tunes; the Beach Boys' 'California Girls', including the key change in the chorus that most people don't notice. If my only real inheritance from my mother's dad is his ability to play anything he could whistle, I'm very glad to have it; it has done well for me all my life even though I can read music (he couldn't).

4. I bailed at the last minute on a dental cleaning today, because I got no real sleep last night (see 2.) and I was not up to driving for half an hour or having someone's hands in my mouth for an hour. I also felt overheated and queasy, and told the receptionist that when I called, and she agreed I shouldn't come in. We rescheduled for Nov. 6, which was Mom's birthday, so I'm not likely to forget to come. It's late at night and I still do feel a bit off, so I'm calling the whole thing self care.

5. And I'm looking forward to seeing the nominations list for Yuletide. Every year there are more diverse possibilities, many of which I have no idea about since I'm not up on the latest Korean or Japanese or Chinese shows. But there are still enough oldbies like me around that I should be able to cobble together some requests and a list of possibilities to write about.

Groovy Baby

Oct. 8th, 2025 10:50 pm
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Hotel Zed's Love Nest is the BC's (Canada's?) first hotel room designed explicitly for sex. Hotel Zed's 70s theme features everything you need including 5 head shower with grab bars, pole, swing, playpen sofa, and tantric furniture. And if you need some help or inspiration the room also features a library.

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Wishlist! I made things! :D

Oct. 9th, 2025 11:22 am
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I made four things for Wishlist (one a little late) - two Weilan and two ChuGuo, two very General Audiences, and two not so much. :D

  • Title: to those who wait (1567 words) [General Audiences]
    Fandom: 镇魂 | Guardian (TV 2018)
    Relationships: Shen Wei & Professor Zhou (Guardian), Shen Wei/Zhao Yunlan
    Additional Tags: Pre-relationship (sort of), First Meeting (for one of them), alternate first meeting, Coincidences/Fate, alcohol consumption, Urban Setting
    Summary:

    Shen Wei had planned to pour his professor into a taxi, spend a few hours patrolling the city as the Black-Cloaked Envoy, and then get to work on his literature review or perhaps draft a proposal for establishing a school system in Dixing. He was already constructing arguments for the latter in his head. But Professor Zhou was distracted by something down the street and set off with surprising vigour for someone who, a moment ago, had barely been able to extract his credit card from his wallet.

    Shen Wei was obliged to follow in his wake.


  • Title: defying gravity (1507 words) [Mature]
    Fandom: 镇魂 | Guardian (TV 2018)
    Relationships: Shen Wei/Zhao Yunlan
    Additional Tags: Plot What Plot/Porn Without Plot, Established Relationship, domestic setting, Inspired by Fanart, Blow Jobs, Clothed Sex
    Summary:

    “Like this?” Zhao Yunlan hops onto the stool and stretches to prop his feet on the nearest ottoman. His elbows automatically find the edge of the breakfast bar behind him. He knows it looks a bit ridiculous—Da Qing never spares an opportunity to mock him for lounging like this—but it's surprisingly relaxing.

    And Shen Wei clearly appreciates the view. His throat bobs as he swallows. “Like that. Are you—comfortable?”


  • Title: Supportive (1807 words) [General Audiences]
    Fandom: 镇魂 | Guardian (TV 2018)
    Relationships: Guo Ying/Yu Jinlan (Guardian), Chu Shuzhi/Guo Changcheng
    Additional Tags: Alternate Universe - Everyone Lives/Nobody Dies, Handwavy fix-it, POV Outsider, Gossip, slight social awkwardness, tiny misunderstanding, Getting Together, (ChuGuo getting together I mean), Established relationship for Guo Ying/Yu Jinlan obviously
    Summary:

    Guo Ying tells Yu Jinlan about his first day at the SID.


  • Title: a tempting fate (3238 words) [Teen and Up]
    Fandom: 镇魂 | Guardian (TV 2018)
    Relationships: Chu Shuzhi/Guo Changcheng
    Additional Tags: Episode Related, episode 18, Fight Club Case, Time Travel, Time Loop, Angst, Mild Hurt/Comfort, minor first aid, First Kiss (for one of them)
    Summary:

    Chu Shuzhi bends sideways so he’s right in Xiao-Guo’s face. “Xiao-Guo, look at me! Did something happen out there? Have you been hypnotised?”

    Hypnosis wouldn’t explain the change of clothes. And Xiao-Guo is actually laughing at him now. He pats Chu Shuzhi’s knee, too, and leaves his hand there as if it’s the most natural thing in the world.



My other late gift is still an extremely long, extremely messy draft, so I'll see how that goes...

ION, check this out!

Olson

Oct. 8th, 2025 09:22 pm
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Olson (same) is a 91 second track on Music Has the Right to Children by Boards of Canada (1998). Some covers... Played through a 1959 DEC PDP-1 computer. Reid (piano) and Kurt (violin). On KORG Volca Bass. A piano solo. With Moog Matriarch, Mother 32, and DFAM. A full track MIDI. Some synth then piano. ixi deconstructs, then plays.

What I'm Doing Wednesday

Oct. 8th, 2025 03:53 pm
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books
Checkmate (The Lymond Chronicles #6) by Dorothy Dunnett. 1975. cw: war, murder, offscreen sexual assault, subsequent PTSD. The exciting conclusion to the series. No lie, this one was rollicking, despite an overuse of untranslated French.

still reading: The Thursday Murder Club by Richard Osman. Book one. So charming.

still reading: Shubeik Lubeik by Deena Mohamed. 2023. Graphic novel. Shubeik lubeik translates to "Your wish is my command" in Arabic. This version of Egypt is modern except it has wishes that come true, and are regulated (and black market). Great concept. I'm only 20% through, but it's a good book so far.


yarning
finished a yellow bunny and the above calico Cat Stitch scarf. The scarf sold this morning (without even me listing it first) & another person wants to get a custom one made! Yay! I worked on a grey and black kickbunny at yarn group Sunday and had a nice time. I'm nearly finished with it, though now I have a commission to recreate a cat's favorite turkey leg toy with wool and catnip. And scarf customer reminded me that xmas is coming and it's time to to work on stocking the shop! I ordered more catnip & hopefully won't run out of silvervine yet. All in all, a productive week!

healthcrap
The drooping eyelid is making me crazy -- double vision, blurry vision, the eyelid being in the way of seeing. more healthcrap )

#resist
October 18: No Kings Day 2!

I hope all of y'all are doing well and can see with your regular number of eyes. :g:

I can see my house from here

Oct. 8th, 2025 08:11 pm
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I have a side project to find the longest line of sight on the planet using a novel Total Viewshed algorithm. At a resolution of 3 arc-seconds (~100m²), the planet contains around 4.5 billion elevation samples. Now obviously we don't need to calculate the visibility between literally every single one of those, so how do we begin to cut it up? from Packing The World For Longest Lines Of Sight

Why to Watch Julia

Oct. 8th, 2025 02:52 pm
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Given that WGBH is now trying to raise an enormous amount to keep the station running, I thought it would be a good time to urge others to watch a show that features its early days. At least as the show "Julia" presents it, WGBH is the public television station that she made a success.

What Sorts of Things Happen in This Show?

Season 1 begins with Julia Child having published her first cookbook and then moving to Boston because her husband was pressured into retirement. However it soon becomes clear that Julia's life is about to start a second phase, and she has to maneuver a great many people into helping her achieve her goals.

In this, she has a co-conspirator, best friend Avis, and the brave and dogged Alice at WGBH who manages to get Julia onto a show as a guest and eventually into her own show. Julia also has the unwavering and in-person support of her editor, Judith Jones, who has to fight her own battles in her support for a less than highbrow book series.

The first season gives us a variety of looks at what life is like for even the educated and upper middle class women who are in Julia's circle (past and present) in a time where women are still very much struggling for financial independence and job opportunities. Julia's own role as a role model for women gets questioned at various points, even as the show makes clear throughout how easily and often women's contributions are erased or overlooked.

The tone of the show is clearly established as walking a line between being humorous and uplifting, and presenting more serious issues with a light touch. Read more... )

The Elevator Pitch

While food certainly is present in the show (each episode is titled for a dish), the show wants to both present the force of nature that was Julia Child, as well as how she created a large crowd of supporters from workmates to viewers. Her story also reflects challenges women faced in finding respect while pursuing their dreams in the mid 20th century. It ends up reminding me most of a less talky Gilmore Girls which focused on Stars Hollow.

Julia can currently be viewed via HBO Max in the U.S.

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A reader writes:

I work at a government agency (not in the U.S.) and it’s a good job. It’s a relaxed environment that definitely puts people’s safety and well-being first.

However, and I never thought I’d be saying this, I think it might be too much of a good thing.

People spend all day chewing on their fingernails and then touching everything (we are moving to a hot-desk only workspace).

We’ve got a few people who are constantly coughing or throat-clearing, and typing/clicking so forcefully that the desk shakes.

The person who sits near me arrives late almost everyday, having come from the gym, and simply changes into work clothes without showering, then spends half an hour eating breakfast, before leaving half an hour early.

I even have a coworker who constantly has their hands down their pants and pulling at their crotch. Even while presenting at a meeting, the hands are down the pants. Another coworker is not as bad, but similarly is constantly adjusting their underwear.

If I wear a blazer and jeans to work, I get comments asking if I’m going to court or to a job interview. I work in a typical office, and I don’t care what people wear, but the constant questions and comments on my clothing is starting to irritate me. I don’t want to wear sweatpants and a hoodie to work!

Is this lack of professionalism ridiculous? Or do I just need to buckle up, bring some sanitizing spray, and carry on? Are all workplaces like this?

It’s like a daycare in here. I feel like I’m going to have a panic attack from the non-stop noise and concerns about germs.

No, all workplaces aren’t like this.

But this seems like a mix of some genuinely gross stuff along with much more mundane stuff.

Genuinely gross and not typical: the hands down the pants (?!),  touching everything after having their fingers in their mouths, and coming into the office sweaty and unshowered. (And how has their manager not addressed, at a minimum, the person presenting with their hands down their pants? What kind of presentations are these? But since they haven’t, you have standing to ask their manager to deal with it.)

More mundane: the coughing and throat-clearing, loud typing, and casual dress. The coughing and throat-clearing is just part of working around other humans. It can be annoying and distracting, but it’s pretty par for the course. Same for the loud typing. And the casual dress isn’t remarkable if your office allows it, which it seems like it does. (And there are offices where wearing a blazer, even with jeans, would stand out as dressier than the norm. If you do it regularly, people will probably come to see it as your style and not remark on it, but it’s still possible it could be out of sync with your particular office’s conventions.)

But isn’t the hot-desking a blessing in disguise, in that you can move further away from the sweaty gym-goers, the coughers, and the, uh, self-caressers? Carry a supply of disinfectant wipes, clean off whatever space you’re working from that day, and try to keep maximum distance between yourself and the worst offenders.

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Posted by JHarris

Older than Mario, Garfield, the Smurfs, the Addams Family, Superman, Mickey Mouse and Winnie-The-Pooh is a comic strip that's still going on today, at over 100 years old, although not by its original name. The strip is Barney Google, now called Barney Google and Snuffy Smith even though Barney rarely appears these days. Don McHoull goes over its history in a surprisingly dense 12½-minute video, The comic strip that won't die. (Gasoline Alley is one year older.)

7 years

Oct. 8th, 2025 10:20 am
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Love you and miss you forever, mom.

media update

Oct. 8th, 2025 01:17 pm
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Okay, it's been... a long time.. since I've done a media update. Oops! Haven't had much to talk about but I guess it's all added up enough to be enough by now.


Some books:

The Lower Decks book, Warp Your Own Way by Ryan North (comics novel) - read this twice, need to read a few more times :D (It's a choose your adventure book)

Doppelganger by Naomi Klein (non-fiction) - didn't get through this before the library yoinked it back (I had it largely thru my couple discord listening challenge weeks, whoops), put myself back on the list. Pretty interesting, kinda awful.

Somewhere Beyond the Sea, TJ Klune (fiction, sequel) - reading this in bits. As much as these are "cozy fantasy," only the relationships are. The plot and background ambiance is upsetting, in general, lol.


Couple Kdramas:

Doctor Cha - do not waste your time on this one! We made it through but it fought us almost the entire time. LOL I appreciate [personal profile] pikron so much in these times XD oooof tease an imminent divorce in the first couple eps, spend the entire series making the husband irredeemable and then only have the divorce in the LAST EPISODE?? Ughhh we were suffering. Props to minor character Jeon Sora for being a tiny bright light. And the actor Kim Mi-kyung (who played the main character's mother), who is ALWAYS excellent.

Business Proposal - CHARMING. Do recommend! Very silly! We are only four or five episodes in, so this might change, but we are enjoying it a lot. It does a lot of stupid special effects stuff & musical things that should be obnoxious but are somehow only charming. These dorks are mfeo. It's so enjoyable we have much less to talk about than in Doctor Cha, though LOL.


Some games:

Sims4 (computer) I spent a week and a half or so playing this. It got too much time out of me. I think it actually isn't very fun? But it is incredibly absorbing. I will probably get sucked in again at some point.

Meow Tower (mobile) - they added more puzzles and a new music box thing.

Word Trails (mobile, thru Netflix) - still doing this ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Animal Crossing: New Leaf (3ds) - I restarted on a whim and am enjoying it. I like how the villagers are more unpredictable but I do not like when they shame me for playing too long :P


Writing & other creative things:

I have been writing, here and there! and a couple new ideas, which is fun. And crocheting! I've been working on a blanket for Kelly and speeding along with these granny squares until I got to the biggest colour chunk and now I'm like ehhhhhhhhhhhhh. Gotta do it!


That's it for me, aside from language learning stuff!

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A reader writes:

I have managed someone, let’s call her Rachel, for over a year and a half. The majority of the experience has been negative — she’s rude, feeds on drama, and produces low-quality work. I’ve had several discussions with her on improving her performance. After a lot of painful experiences, she resigned while I was on vacation. She only gave a week’s notice, and since I’m on vacation we will only have two days overlap.

I know as a manager I have the responsibility to be professional and courteous, but I can’t stomach the idea that we even have to interact at all on those two final days. I have even contemplated rescheduling our team meeting to the day after she leaves because I don’t want to hear some passive-aggressive spiel from her about how she’s going to some place that appreciates her and her skill set. And I certainly don’t want to have a fake conversation where we thank each other for our time and work together, because that would be a lie. While previously I’ve tried to be encouraging in difficult conversations, now I feel like I don’t have to put on any pretenses anymore, especially since she resigned in a petty way. Is it okay if I ignore her or have very minimal interaction with her on those final two days? And what are your thoughts more broadly about minimizing interactions with toxic employees that you manage directly or are part of your division?

I answer this question — and two others — over at Inc. today, where I’m revisiting letters that have been buried in the archives here from years ago (and sometimes updating/expanding my answers to them). You can read it here.

Other questions I’m answering there today include:

  • My company is skin-crawlingly positive
  • Telling my employee about a job somewhere else without seeming like I’m pushing them out

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Void Trilogy, by Peter F. Hamilton

Oct. 8th, 2025 09:28 am
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The Void Trilogy is three books that are really just one long, enormous book: The Dreaming Void, The Temporal Void, and The Evolutionary Void. They don't stand on their own even as installments in a series and must be read one after another, no dawdling.

I didn't enjoy this as much as the Commonwealth Saga, its predecessor, which I remember as being dense but interesting science fiction. It had a lot of characters, in a lot of locations, but all were distinct and memorable and their stories slowly converged in a satisfying way. This book (all three of it) is written to the same formula, but bloated to the point where so much was happening, and for so little reason, that the people, locations, and factions all ran together despite them being on many different planets, which also ran together. The only memorable parts of the book were Edeard and Araminta, and in the beginning I mostly kept reading for Edeard, though I became less interested in him as time went on and he became so powerful that all that was left to do was wait for the corruption to set in. Luckily Araminta started to get more attention around that same time.

I think perhaps Hamilton is best held to two volume books because this story seriously got away from him in three. There was stuff in here that just did not need to be in here, and then once it became relevant again (if it ever did) Hamilton did not give a flying fuck whether you remembered it or not and refused to give you a hint even if it was referencing something from the last book or two thousand pages ago.

It's so long that by the time you get to the actual climax of the series it's like, they ask a guy not to do the thing that'll end the universe, and he's like, idk, and then they ask him once more with feeling and he's like, well, okay. There's plenty of excitement on the way, but talk about anti-climatic. And then everyone goes home to a happy ending because no one (with insurance) ever dies in this universe. They just get downloaded to new bodies. Though you do kind of forget about that while you're reading because the characters are in so much peril.

Also, and I don't know how else to put this, but every reference to sex read like it was written by a man, like the beautiful identical twins who married the same man, and the one guy in multiple bodies who told his singular-bodied girlfriend that he had to fuck other women with his other bodies while he was with her because she (the girlfriend) just made him so hot, baby.

The eye rolls I rolled.

Still, obviously I found something compelling about this in order to spend, according to Libby, something like 72 hours reading it. But if you're looking to get into granular space operas, I don't think this is the place to start with Hamilton.

Status Updates from Goodreads )

Contains: Descriptions of sexual violence; graphic physical violence; animal harm/death; references to forced impregnation and forced abortion; "Oriental" used to describe people; lingers on fatness in a way that isn't positive; mind control; cops; and for the ebooks: so many OCR errors I was instantly transported back in time to 2009.
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A reader writes:

My company is technically hybrid, but my department is almost exclusively work from home, which has suited me.

This week, we’d been asked whether or not we’ll be attending an all-hands in person or on Zoom and I’d been really struggling with the decision. I like my coworkers, but I invariably get sick when I do in-person stuff and spent half of September audibly sick from the last in-person department meeting I attended. If I went, I planned to mask. The meeting was listed as being from 9 am – 1 pm and lunch is provided, but masking only works if you stay masked. That means I can’t eat or drink unless I’m outside and there’s no outdoor space at this location. Four hours in a mask without water guarantees a massive headache for me. Not ideal.

I contacted the organizer to get a little more information about the timing and activities because some things don’t work well on Zoom, and if we were wrapping up at noon with that last hour as a social lunch I could cope and just leave early. He said, “In your situation, it’ll probably work best for you to call in” so that’s what I decided to do.

This morning, I got a phone call from my manager, who is on vacation (always a good sign). He said they (I assume “they” is actually my grandboss, but I don’t know) “really want” me to attend in person. I took the hint, but was annoyed that they had asked us whether we wanted to show up, and then decided it was mandatory. Later today it became clear that no one had told the organizer that this was mandatory now, which made it feel like leadership was deliberately obscuring the change.

Then I had a call with a coworker/friend and she told me that she heard my avoiding in-person events “has been noticed.” It took me a bit to figure out what that could even mean. I went to two in-person events in August and said yes to a conference in another state where “vaccine” is a bad word — what more could they want? Eventually, we concluded that they must be talking about the corporate astrology workshop I declined (because ick, pseudoscience), the tour I’m skipping (because I used to work at that location and don’t need to spend four hours driving to see it again), and the upcoming all-hands. For the record, I have not been shy about why I declined the workshop or the tour, though I did keep it work-appropriate.

I feel that this is very unfair, though I can see how it looks, but the actual problem is that it wasn’t my manager who raised this issue with me. I don’t even know who “noticed.” But it feels like something I should address sooner rather than later, I’m just not sure how.

Should I raise this with my manager? I’m afraid it will be obvious who told me, and I don’t want to get that person in trouble. Or should I wait to see if he raises it with me? I’m concerned he won’t; he’s only been a manager for a year, and I don’t know yet how he handles difficult stuff. I’ve had a manager who didn’t tell me about problems until they became Problems before (and even then I had to twist his arm to get it out of him), and ideally I’d like to avoid that happening again.

I do plan to politely tell him that I don’t think this change was handled well. If they want us to come in, just say so. Don’t pretend to give us the option, or “strongly encourage” us and then hold it against us if we decline.

I don’t think it’s necessarily clear that attending the all-hands in person is mandatory for everyone — it sounds like it’s generally optional, but the message was being passed along to you specifically that they’d like you to attend in person, presumably because they’ve noticed you haven’t been attending as many things in-person as they want.

And who knows who “they” is here — maybe it’s your manager, maybe it’s his boss, maybe it’s both of them.

Normally I’d say to be wary of putting too much weight on something you hear about third-hand — your coworker’s mention that she’s heard your not attending things in person “has been noticed” — but it matches up pretty well with the rest of the facts, so it’s likely correct.

Still, though, it doesn’t make sense to try to sort through this without talking to your boss about it more directly.

I get that you don’t want to out your coworker for confiding in you, but you don’t have to mention that at all. You can simply say, “I wanted to ask you more about our conversation about me attending the all-hands in person. I do attend some things in person, like the two events in August and the conference in X, but I try to be judicious about what I go to because I frequently get sick when I’m around large groups — I spent a couple of weeks sick after the last in-person department meeting. I can mask, of course, but it’s hard to do all day or when there’s a meal involved. We’d been told attending the all-hands in-person was optional and Francois confirmed that when I checked with him, so your request that I be in-person made me wonder if you have any concerns about how I’m managing in-person vs. remote more broadly.”

Don’t get sidetracked by “if they want us to come in, just say so / don’t pretend it’s optional” — because, again, it sounds like it probably is optional for most people and they’re just asking you in particular to be there. Focus on what’s behind that.

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